SO. I have a situation to explain, but it's rather complicated. So I'll make it as short and sweet as possible. =)
I have a 4 month old baby boy. And his father isn't exactly around and as supportive as he should be. First of all, when I first found out I was pregnant I called him and he immediately denied that it was his. I didn't see him or hear from him throughout my entire pregnancy. My son was born on May 5th, and was a spitting image of his dad! I called him and told him and even offered the idea of taking a DNA test to PROVE to him that he was his. He never answered his phone, and never called me back. I ended up going to his mom's house (thinking he still lived there) and left notes in the door telling him to call me. THEN, he changes his phone number on me! This all happened in the first two months of my baby's life. Then I had to beg him to take the DNA test. He thought of every excuse in the book not to, and then he agreed that he would only if I paid for it. So, 600 dollars later, we get the results back and surprise surprsie, he's the father! Ugh. that's not even HALF of what I've dealt with with this guy. And I still haven't even seen half of the cost for the dna test that he said he would help me pay for if the results were positive. So after 3 months of bullshit and chasing him around trying to pound into his head that this is his child and he's going to miss out on an awesome thing, he finally started coming around to see him, occassionally. I'm still the one raising him and doing everything by myself. And the only things he has given me is two packs of diapers and a total of $90.00. He obviously thinks that 20 bucks here and there is going to cut it. So for the past month I've been debating whether or not I should file for child support. He has asked me not to and to "give him the chance to help me" without going to court. WELL, I've given him lots of chances! He even told me that he was breaking up with his current g/f and that he wanted me and the baby to move in with him! Then he runs off to Europe for two weeks on a "business trip" and then comes back to tell me they got engaged! And then I found out the other day that they really aren't engaged!! Oh, and he also told me that he was doing personal fitness training for work, only to find out yesterday at my Child support appt. that he works at a factory..... yeah. OH and one more thing =)
One weekend I called him to see if he wanted to come over and spend some time with the baby, he told me he was in AL at his dad's funeral. He told me his FATHER died. Then I felt bad for bothering him and told him to call me when everything was better.... then I find out a few weeks later that his mom knew nothing about it!! So his dad hadn't even died!! I know I'm rambling, but I'm trying to give everyone a good idea about what he's all about. So we took the baby out over the weekend and he's begging me not to go to court and this and that. That I need to give him the chance to help me on his own. And he starts saying that he wants things to work out, that him and his g/f "aren't going to last long...." I don't even want to be with him, the only reason I would even consider dating him again is for my son. Just seeing the real him in this whole situation has totally turned me off to him. Well I had my CS appt. yesterday and I got everything ready to go. I even have the chance to get retroactive child support which means he will have to pay me for the past 4 months that he hasn't helped with either. I feel bad.... I'm debating in my mind whether I should give him the chance or not?? I've seen what he's all about and that's lies and weaseling his way out of things... I went through my entire pregnancy by myself and so far throughout the first 4 months of our son's life. And now I'm working full time, trying to go back to school, and raising our son as a single mother while he goes on living his normal life partying it up and all the while giving me excuses and pushing things off constantly. I deserve financial help from him. His son deserves support from him. I have a couple of months before we actually go to court for it, but I don't know what to do! I don't want him to get pissed if I go through with it and then have bitter feelings toward me which could cause him to not even want to come around and see Landon. Any suggestions???
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