Should I have kids?

Question

I am starting to feel like something is missing in my life. I have talked to my husband about having kids but he seems undesided. I don't want to push him into having kids but I am starting to worry that we are both getting old. We don't have a house yet we live in a townhouse that does not allow kids on rent. I'm 32 yrs old and husband is 36. I am also super afraid of having to go through being pregnant. I have always had a huge fear of hospitals. I think my husband knows this so that is also making him unsure about having kids. What should i do?

Answer 1

thats a hard thing to say, you have to remember the long term, how old you'll be when the child is a certain age, if you want to deal with that at that time. if you feel in your heart you want to be a mother then talk to him about how you feel. the reasons behind it. you dont have to push nothing on him that of course wont work, but if you really want to have a child then you should. just tell him how you feel listen to how he feels maybe you guys can come to an  agreement. best of luck

Answer 2

if your so afraid to have a baby, then adopt!

Answer 3

I didnt want kids. I loved everyone elses kids, but could not see myself being a mom. Was also afraid of the pregnancy, labor and delivery. Then i got pregnant, unplanned of course, and was forced to deal with pregnancy and labor and delivery. And it wasn't so bad.. and now  i dont understand why i ever thought i didnt want kids. Now im preggo with #2.. excited as ever. Just wait until you are ready for kids. If it's meant to happen it will happen, by the grace of god if nothing else!

Answer 4

If you've gotten to this age and are still unsure then the answer is most likely no.

Answer 5

ok, well. i've never had a kid before, and i wont for a while. but obviously, its a huge responsibilty. having to go thru the pain of pregnancy and actually giving birth after 9 months of a child growing inside of u. having to dedicate 18 years of your life to the child. oh, not to mention diapers, bottles, and crying for like 4-6 years! potty-training......

you are both still kinda young. if you dont think you're ready for a kid, or you think you wont be able to handle it, by all means, dont do it

ask yourself this: am i really willing to have a family right now? am i willing to go through with this, and with this man?

think of how great, and hard life will be with a kid

to me it seems almost impossible, but if your husband is really willing to help you out as much as he can, then go for it

i wish you the best of luck ♥♥♥♥♥

Answer 6

if you're ready to stress a little bit when you're children misbehaves and spend more money then i think you're ready to start you're car and drive to the adoption center  :)

Answer 7

I'm kind of in the same boat with ya. I'm 31, my GF is 30. Been together for two years. She really wants children, I need to wait till we are married to go that rout, so I have pressure coming at me from every direction. All I know is I need to start having children before she's 35. Statistics tell that women over the age of 35 are at greater risk at having children with Downed Syndrome......another pressure point. Give him a little more time, he'll come through,  I know I will. Another thing I'm scared about is how jacked up this country and world will be in my kids' lifetime. I don't want them growing up in a screwed up world.

Answer 8

NO, do not have kids...........

Answer 9

I think even people who are 110% sure they want kids aren't always ready. If he's not ready that's not fair to him and you aren't exactly sold on the idea. so, NO, don't do it! Listen to your reason "I feel like something is missing....". Do some soul searching, a child is probably not it! Why would you forfit where you live and your freedom if you are not sure? Adopt in a few years when you DO have a house and are BOTH ready. It's not fair to the kid for you both to be unsure about it, it's selfish to bring them into the world because you feel empty.

Answer 10

one of the other day every one look for kids if its become to late it will effect the kids future for example now you are 32 and your hubby 36 years and hope now every one can't work more than 50 to 55 years with in that time you have to make your kids to settle other wise it will become very problem to your kids, for you and country. think about this and decide both.

Problems will have every one you should not afraid....Work hard try for better opportunity or save some amount for your kids.

Hope you both will take good decision. All the best.

Answer 11

If you aren't ready- wait. You're still young.

Answer 12

This question should have been answered 15 years ago. FInd a Baptist Church and ask them what they think!

Answer 13

If you are unsure, you should wait. Kids are a huge commitment...you need to know you want to commit before you have one.

Answer 14

I felt the same way as you did. I had my daughter when I was 29, and I am so glad I did and wished I did it sooner. I was afraid of pregnancy, and I'm not going to lie it wasn't a breeze but it was worth it in the end. I would watch my friends and family with their children and I wanted it too.

At the time I got pregnant things were not set up the way I wanted it to be. I wasn't married and me and my boyfriend were living in a studio. Now four years later we are about to buy a house and are having a son. For most people having children is an encouragement to do the right thing by them. If you choose to have children you will make the necessary adjustments, believe me.