Should I have stayed quiet?

Question

At work I'm really quiet and shy but I'm trying to open up. One day, one of the girls was upset because she was feeling fat and expressed this to another coworker in the room. I was just quietly listening and doing my work at the time. A few minutes go by and it got really quiet. I felt bad that she was upset, so all of a sudden I chime in and say shyly but sweetly, "You don't look fat, don't worry." She looked at the other coworker who exchanged smiles with her after I said that.

Why do you think they smiled at each other after I said that? Should I have kept my mouth shut?

Answer 1

they were probably just surprised that you were listening and commented about their conversation, let alone spoke at all since you're usually quiet.

but it's nice that you said that anyway :)

edit: i really agree with what andria said

Answer 2

I am like you, I am quiet at work and people think I am self important and stuck up, when in fact this is not the case, I'm just quiet.

In most cases quiet people are considered to "think they are better than others, that's why they don't join in" .  There is a chance that they thought you were just saying so, but doesn't really mean it.

The other reason they smiled could be because it's strange for them that you would join in the conversation and they really didn't know what to say, because they haven't build a relationship with you, because you're usually quiet.

Don't worry, at some point peole will see you're a sincere person, just quiet.  

The trouble is most people don't like quiet people because they can't be easily manipulated, because they aren't apart of "the crowd".

Keep your head up, you will find people who appreciate the qualities you have, that you're not a blabber mouth who likes gossiping the whole day and try to skip doing your job  :-)

Answer 3

No way! That was such a sweet thing to do...the girl looked at the girl who thought she was fat to show that she wasn't just saying that to make her feel better, and the girl who thought she was fat would have felt so much better after you said that, especially as you are so shy and quiet...

Answer 4

You did the right thing. Personally I think it's best when strangers compliment me on something rather than good friends..because good friends will tell u things to make u feel better but if it's real a stranger has to go out of their way to say it. Which sometimes means more. Their exchanges of smiles wasn't anything mean. and i'm sure she appreciated the compliment. Probably made her day I know it would have made mine :)

Answer 5

Awwe you were just trying to be sweet. It was rude of her not to say anything back to you like thanks.  If you are really thin and cute then they probably thought yeah right what does she know.

I wouldnt worry about it. You obviously were only trying to be nice and most people are just RUDE.

Answer 6

the smile may have been to acknowledge that you said a very nice thing...regardless you had good intentions whether or not she appreciated it.

Answer 7

I think that she feels happy that someone(you) said that. Most people will not suddenly say that. She is grateful for you to say that. If a person suddenly says that they are not fat, they feel happy. It is good that you said it and I am happy that you did NOT keep your mouth shut.

Answer 8

You shouldn't feel bad and you shouldn't have kept your mouth shut. You were trying to help her out by telling her something to make her feel better. Maybe they smiled at eachother because they appreciated the effort you made to help her. Don't feel so bad! Just brush it off.

Answer 9

Sounds like the look was a look of affirmation,I'm sure the girl that exchanged looks with her was just agreeing with you and smiled at that girl that was feeling bad about herself to say see i told you so.

Answer 10

f i were one of them, i would have thought, "gee, that was sweet of her, and must have been hard for her, with being so shy."

Answer 11

the thing is after you spoke, they didnt look at each other making a face, they smiled...that says it all. good for you.

Answer 12

no u did the right thing probably made her day and mine for reading about such a nice thing which is not ez for a shy person like u or me