Should I help out my husband with money?

Question

When my husband moved out he said he would pay the major bills (the house and 2 credit cards) and all I had to do was pay the utilities and car insurance. Now he is asking me if I can help out with more since this is all I pay. I do feel guilty about this, but he makes a lot more money than I do and if the tables were turned he definitely would not help me out. Not only that he does not want to pay my attorney fees and does not want to give me spousal maintenance, but yet he wants me to help him now. What should I do?

Answer 1

Sounds unfair, unless there is sumthing you are hiding?

Answer 2

Firstly, he is not obligated to help you financially since you are no longer living together. If you are struggling, it may be in good judgment to take on a secondary job. Also look into gov. programs to find out what they can help with. Sadly enough people do promise things ( with good intention, or not) and do not take up on their part of it. Happened to me countless times. That's why just as i have advised you, I depend on myself as much as possible. If I can do myself, I do. But occasionally we all need help, we just have to know that it is because you have done everything in your power and you have no other option. As for him, explain to him you can not afford it, he'll get the picture. No doubt.  

Answer 3

Tell him, "I expect you to follow through and do exactly what you said you would do."

Answer 4

If he moved out why is he paying your bills ? You sound SELFISH, If you can't pay your rent on your own  move in with your parents again. No wonder your husband left you !!!

Answer 5

Help him???, it sounds like he is helping you a lot and wants you to do a bit more effort in helpling yourself as well. And of course he wouldn't want to pay your attorneys

Answer 6

What you should have done at the start..........get your solicitor to draw up an agreement as to what you both pay.  If he has the highest income then he will have to pay more,but if you start paying for more without an official document then he will only add on more when he feels like it.  You are also answering your own question by telling us that if the tables were turned.....he would not.......so, I think you know already what to do.  Good Luck......always messy when money comes into it.

Answer 7

Get a good lawyer before you find yourself in a big mess.

Answer 8

if he doesnt pay them would your credit get trashed? is your name on the house, and credit cards? that may be something to think about if youre on the fence about helping him

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Go talk to a lawyer.  Any changes at this point would set a precedent.