Should I hold back my daughter in 5th grade. She is B,C student but up to a year younger and socially strugl

Question

Socially is not there yet. Her teachers told us to think about it then when we spoke w/them, but then when we remet with the principle the teachers attitude changed.

She would be moving up to middle school. so there will be new kids. She is so having trouble with the kids at her current school. Please anyone with experience with this or involved in education let me know what your thoughts are.

Answer 1

I would say no... She'll make friends in middle school trust me.

I was held back in 1st grade because my parents did the SAME thing you want to do.

Some people call me retarded and stupid but really I don't care.

Answer 2

no way the rest will fall in to play for her it may just take longer then others all kids are differant

Answer 3

Holding her back at this age would be emotionally traumatic, especially for a child who is already having problems in school (social or otherwise).  She'll feel like something is wrong with her, and that will only make things worse.  OR, she'll resent it, and stop performing in her classwork.  

I suggest finding her some extracurricular activities to help her build confidence and social skills.  Girl Scouts would be great for this.  A noncompetitive team sport might be good too.  She'll probably feel more confident with her classmates if she felt part of a group.  Middle school should have many options for clubs as well.  Help her get involved with them and she'll make friends in no time.

Answer 4

At this age being held back could be emotionally damaging for her. She will feel like a failure. And other kids will tease her about it.

Since you say she doesnt have a good network of friends at her current school I would let her go to middle school - maybe there she will find more kids to be friends with.

As for the B's and C's - keep at her during middle school. Many children fall back during these years and then spend half of high school catching up.

Answer 5

What a tough call.   I think it would have been better to hold her back in kindergarten than now.  It would be awfully hard to get past the social stigma of being held back - I think it would be my absolute last resort.  Good luck.

Answer 6

From what I remember of school, being held back a year would not solve social problems. Kids will be cruel, no matter how hard you try. I'd suggest you get her a tutor and maybe a counseler that could help strenghten her social skills.

Answer 7

she is above average and you want to hold your child back??????  public school and parenting might be the problem.  get some counseling and look at other options -like private & charter schools.

Answer 8

DO NOT hold the child back unless she can not comprehend the lessons, work with her during the summer with coming out of her shell, my grandson was this way and we encouraged him to join in conversations, and had friends to talk to him when they were around, and acknowledge what he was saying. Just because she is shy is not a reason to hold her back, she will only be bored in class.

Answer 9

don't hold her back in my opinion. I really don't think that a year in age will make that big of a difference. Plus pretty soon she will be in middle school with a bunch of other kids that will most likely share the same age group.