Should I insist in changing schools?

Question

My 12 year old has been bullied since starting primary school. This has led to health problems - she has been very unhappy during her first year in secondary school and has started with migraines (both headache and stomach pains). The school has been very unsympathetic and doesnt give a stuff about my child - who has even had death threats! Since being off school this past week she has been pain free - prior to this she has been off at least once per week. Coincidence or a sign that I should move her school - what would you do?

Answer 1

i wud move her my younger brother was bullied to the point of physical abuse and the school did nothing so we moved him and he was fine after that he made new friends and got on with his life i think u shud report the school with all the children taking there own life because off bulling they need to be tougher i hope your is able to get her confidence back a start a fresh some where keep me posted

Answer 2

You need to get her out of that school.

Answer 3

No, why should your daughter have the upheaval of changing schools when she has done nothing wrong.  You say the school are unsympathetic, well they'll soon change their tune if you get the local press involved!  Also try putting an ad in your local paper asking for the parents of other bullied children in the school to come forward (I'm sure you'd be surprised how many there are)  Form a group to put pressure on the school to recognise they have a problem.  Go over their heads by going to the local Education Authority and your local MP.  As she has had a  death threat I would involve the Police as well.  These little s****s who are bullying her should not be allowed to get away with it.   By moving her to another school you are letting them win and they will just find someone else to pick on next year.   If anyone should leave the school it should be them as they are not fit to interact with the rest of the pupils.  Stand up to them and fight back - bullies hate that.

Good luck

Answer 4

I went through the same thing while in high school.  I ended up Home Schooling, with tutors coming to the house paid by the board of education...bc nothing could be done to stop it.  My parents just had a lawyer file a complaint with the board of ed and they worked out the deal.  I had the same exact teachers (mostly) that my peers had, but it worked out great for me schooling from home.  I got to graduate with my same class and attend the same ceremonies.  

If that doesn't work there are many "online" regionally accredited high schools.  Penn Foster is one but there's a few others.  

Hope it all works out for you and your daughter ;-)

Good Luck :-)

Answer 5

i think a letter to the education authorities first, then too your local M.P. THEN  very important if death threats have been issued seeing a solicitor for advice, may the police should be invovled , the teachers cant be very good if this is going on, and i would also consider changing schools or looking into home tutoring for a while whilst she is so ill, migraine is not pleasent hope she gets well and good luck, on your fight for your daughters problems.

Answer 6

Hun get that poor girl out of that school!!!

No one no matter what age, should be subjected to bullying to the extent that the poor things has signs of anxiety.

I feel for your situation. Some kids are just awful!!

Id be defiantly changing schools, and also having a go at the principal of the other school. A death treat is well beyond bullying and need to be acted upon!

Answer 7

Hun to be honest if the school isn't doing anything to help they are truly disgusting ..and yes you should move her its her life and education that's being ruined by morons and a school with no morals ,it makes me sick to see they still allow this to happen , i was bullied in school and my whole life suffered and so did my education, move your daughter and report the school !

Answer 8

The Schrutes home-schooled their children.  This could be an option for you.

Answer 9

I thin you should find some way to put confidence in her, so that she can be happy again..whether it's you who teaches her that, or whatever..if you move her, she's sure to lose her sadness, cuz she'll be like starting a new life there..

Answer 10

Yeah it may not hurt for her to be moved to a new school, or try homeschooling, but if you do make sure she's still active with others.  Especially have a talk with the principal, and if he/she is unresponsive to it, then see what you can do about getting them out of that position.  You could also talk to the kids parents who are bullying your daughter.  See about teaching your daughter self confidence and sticking up for herself, she may be less apt to take c**p in the future and will likely not have these anxiety pains.  And just as a precaution, it couldn't hurt to take her to the doctor to see if its something more than just anxiety.

Answer 11

i would go and have a meeting with the school teachers and headmaster/head mistress(if you havent already), and see what they can do.

if you really dont want her going back to that school, then suggest to her about oging to a new school, and see what she says.

if she doesnt mind, then i'd say go for it!

Answer 12

probably so.i am not a confrontational person myself and when i was in high school i was bullied a little.i cant stand these kinds of people.but i changed school.#1 b/c i lived a bit away from the school and it was hard since my parents had lost their car(wreck).#2 I had alot better things to worry about than someone trying to beat me up everyday.I had a sick mother who was in and out of the hospital.#3 I just wanted to go to school.I changed my senior yr so i did not get to know alot of people.It was hard at first being the new person, but people were nice and i dont recall having any problems when i changed. i was a lot happier.

Answer 13

Yes, let her change school. She has suffered enough and it's about time it ended.

Answer 14

leave if that school is a bad to her leave that conditions u mensioned are atrocious i hope officials come and ban that school

Answer 15

just ask her- her life isn't it?

Answer 16

Change schools or change the school ?http://www.bullying.co.uk/schools/bullyi...

If you are up to it you could get the school to work on an anti bullying policy?  Report it to you Education Department as an official complaint that the school have ignored your worries - always assuming you have spoken to the HT?  Do other parents feel the same?  Have you brought it up at a PTA meeting?  Moving schools is sometimes best but there are no guarantees.  It is not easy, my daughter was bullied and did not want me to get involved.  Eventually I had to as she got threats via BEBO.  It was the best thing that could have happened, the Rector (HT) called the police and the bullying stopped within 3 days!!  I wish I had done it sooner but you want to respect you children's wishes too.  Good luck.

Answer 17

If she has had death threats, the school needs to do something.  It is their responsibility to make sure your child is safe.  If she wants to change schools let her.  But I would seek legal advice as to how to make the school address these problems.  It may save some other kids a lot of heartache.

Answer 18

I would move her to a different school. I mean this has been going on since primary school so its got to stop and it probably wont unless her or the bullies leave. So moving would be a very good idea.

As to the school she is currently attending, they should know how to deal with situations of bullying like this. Unfortunately for you and many other children, schools dont deal with it. My boyfriend's brother got hospitalized due to bullies and the school did nothing. So Im sorry to hear your daughter is at a school like his.

Also some advice for her:

Dont worry because help is always at hand. School is always going to be difficult. BUt be strong and they will never break you.