Should I introduce my children to my husbands daughter?

Question

it is a long story short version is we split up after our oldest was born he dated and had a child with a woman. Soon he came back to me and since then I refused to let him see the girl she is 10 my girl is almost 11. He pays for he and see her, but she knows he has kids it is just my kids dont know about her. She wants to have brothers and sister with my kids but I refused. i told my husband to stop seeing the little girl or stop seeing his real family. He agreed. Today we recived a letter from her asking her dad to visit because she has a father daughter dance and also if she could play with my kids. I told him not to go to the dance or let her see my kids. should I even introduce my kids to this girl or will it cause problems

Answer 1

I think you are being an awful, vial person for denying this little girl her father! How would you feel in the shoe was on the other foot and he was not "allowed" to be a part of you children's lives????

As for your kids, yes they should know their sister. My husband just met his half brother a couple of years ago. They wish that they could have known each other before before their adult years. My husband and his sister always knew about their brother, but he had no idea they even existed until they were reunited.

Answer 2

OMG you are so mean.  yes he messed up but that is his child he should not have to choose. That girl has a right to her dad. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot just paying is not enough.  Also your kids have  a right to see their siblings what you are doing is cruel and unusual

Answer 3

Your husband is a p&&*y! I would have told you to STFU a long time ago!!!!! Whether you like it or not that is HIS child and you are being absolutely CRUEL and HEARTLESS! If you feel this way you yourself don't deserve to be a mother!

No, it would not cause problems if they met!

Answer 4

Tell them, that way they don't feel betrayed....but don't introduce them, especially at that age.

Answer 5

R is completely right - - you are the adult and acting like a spoiled little child throwing a temper tantrum to get your own way.

That little girl is his real family too.  Your husband needs to grow a set and tell you what you so obviously need to hear!  You took him back and accepted what he did - -don't make an innocent child pay for it - - If I ever pulled this c**p, I would hope my husband would divorce me quicker then you could blink and take care of all of  his children properly.