Should I invite my exhusband to my daughter's birthday party?

Question

I am planning a party for my daughter. The party is at a skating rink. She will be nine. My ex and I are not on good

terms. I have a boyfriend and my ex is very jealous. I would like to extend the invitation to him and his family. However, I am not sure if this is appropiate.

Answer 1

remember... the party is all about her... if you think it could be a disaster don't do it!

Answer 2

well If your daughter feels comfortable with having her dad there why not as long as he is not abusive and does not act like an animal in the zoo. life is to short to to hold grudges and i think your child has been through enough, make her life enjoyable and realize she loves both of you very much.

Answer 3

He IS the child's father isn't he? The fact that you and he don't get along is no reason to make the child suffer.  You and her father need to grow up and act like adults and put your child FIRST.  What goes on between you and your ex husband has nothing to do with your daughter.

Answer 4

i think that, if you feel there will be problems and tension, then just limit the birthday party to your daughter and her friends, and your family.

i'm sure her father is capable of doing something special for her on his own..

Answer 5

You are a diamond in the ruff and a doll to boot.  Go ahead and invite them it will be good for your daughter

Answer 6

If the Ex is the girls father, he should be invited.  I also suggest your boyfriend not attend.

Answer 7

This isn't going to be what you want to hear, but I'll say it anyway.  It's not your party, it's your daughter's.  She should have mommy and daddy there, and they should both be acting like grown ups.  You need to talk to your ex beforehand, and explain to him that this party is for your daughter--the best thing that ever came out of your relationship.  When it comes to her, you two need to put your own issues on the back burner.  Let him know, you're bringing the new guy, and you don't want a scene.  It's not fair to your daughter for that kind of drama to unfold at her party.  Just make sure all adults understand they need to be focused on the birthday girl, not each other...And, be discreet with your boyfriend in front of your ex.  You wouldn't want to see someone that you once loved getting all smoochy with someone new.

Answer 8

it would be the right thing to do and think how you would feel if it would have been him instead of you planning this party and he didn't invite to it...  Treat him the way you wuold want him 2 treat u in this situation

Answer 9

if you think he can control himself and be there only for the happiness of your daughter...then invite him.

if you think that either he or his family would make a scene or do anything disruptive..then do not invite him!

your daughter will be nine she will remember everything! you don't want her birthday to be ruined!

Answer 10

Since you aren't on good terms it might be best for him to have her a party for his side of the family.  I know with my boys I do birthday parties for everyone on both sides but that is only because my ex and i can be civilized together and were friends for many years before we had the boys so we just get along for the sake of my boys but many people can't do that.  I know my boyfriend has his own birthday party for his side because he and his ex don't get along.

Answer 11

well i think if ur daughter gets along with ur ex and his family then yes u should. or ask ur daughter will she like to have them there. or u can always just send it to them to be nice and if they go well then they go i mean u really r not going to speak to him or them. ur going to b busy with the kids and stuff. well thats what i will do.

Answer 12

If you are not on good terms, no.

Answer 13

Feel free to extend your invitation to him and his family, but not without warning him that you are doing this for your daughter and that if he acts out if any way he will be asked to leave and will not recieve an invite again....although he does have jealous tendencies, he may not act out if his family is there.....

Answer 14

if you think any bad feelings between you , your ex and your BF will effect your daughter then i would think it best not to include him... i think this party should be what is best for her and having bickering parents is not likely in her best interest...encourage your ex to plan a special outing with her to celebrate her birthday with just the 2 of them

that said if your daughter has stated that she wants her dad there then i think you are kinda stuck with inviting him