Should I invite my family to my wedding?

Question

I have two aunts whom i rarely speak to. its been actually a year and a half. I am getting married in three months. However, everytime I am around them its always "did you hear about so and so, or this person" and frankly, its annoying. I invited them to my baby shower two years ago, noone showed up. I invited them to my sons FIRST bday party, noone showed up. If i want to see them, i usually have to go there which is 30 minutes away. They can also be a little rude, not to mention they do not get along with my mom (they are all sisters). It seems like everytime i invite them they NEVER show up. When they see me, they always try and upstage me and say how their daughter in laws do it better or yada yada. They have never even met my fiance. I dont want them to be invited, and since we are moving anyways they wont find out.

Advice please. Thank you so much.

Answer 1

you should, but you don't have to..

and it also depends on the size of the party, if you have a big one, I think you should invite them and let them mingle around with the other guests, and you don't have to cater to their want if they want to gossip or say something bad, it is your day and you can choose what to do and who to talk to. the reason why you should invite them if you have a big wed, is to avoid future gossip or have them say bad things about you. and if you have a big ones, they can always get busy talking with other people

but if  you have a small wed, you don't have to invite them and don't tell them you are getting married, let other people tell them the news. and when you see them after the wed, you can explain the situation, say you only wanted a small wedding, or you run on a small budget, you can always make up a reason..

hopefully that helps you.. congrat anyways

Answer 2

Usually I'm in favor of inviting relatives who are close (by blood) to at least try to make an effort at family unity and extend an olive branch.  (Unless they're dangerous, very rude, or dramatically annoying.)  I can see you reaaally don't want to invite them.  And have no intention of having a relationship with them.

Here's what I would do:  Ask your mom's advice on that.  If she really wants them there, invite them.  If she's okday about you not inviting them, then don't bother if you don't want to have a relationship with them.  But I would not let the fact that they didn't show up at these other events influence whether you invite them.  We don't know what their reasons are.  People have not attended various events I've had because they were sick, out of the country, etc.

Answer 3

Yeah dont invite them, they might ruin your wedding by being rude so whats the point, if they're offended and ask why maybe you can say that their invitation got lost in the mail and since they never showed up to any other party you assumed they wouldnt be attending your wedding as well :)

Answer 4

Since you have a family all ready why not just a simple wedding at your home and just immediate family. If they haven't been to anything else you have invited them to I would be they won't come to the wedding. Save the money for your kids and just go simple.  

Answer 5

I, too, have annoying aunts!  In fact, when I read this, I swear you and I must be sisters, my story is so similar!

Personally, I wouldn't invite them.  They haven't shown up in the past; not likely they will this time.

Answer 6

Short and simple, if you dont want them there and you are not comfortablew ith them, then dont invite them!

Answer 7

don't invite !!