Should I invite them?

Question

I want to baptise my son in a few weeks, should i invite my son's father and his family?

I hate my son's father guts and I can't stand his family, I was thinking about keeping a small ceremony after the baptism but I don't want to see none of them.

What should I do?

Answer 1

Who you invite to anything should be completely up to you as the hostess. Good luck in finding a church that will do it without the father there though.

Answer 2

i think it's right to invite the father and at least his parents to the ceremony....don't worry about seeing them...you don't have to talk that much to them much if you don't want to just say hi and then keep your distance...if you have a little party or get together afterwards i wouldn't worry about inviting them to that tho

Answer 3

Take the high road as that will serve you later. Whatever has been and whatever has been said before you will look like the gracious one.

A child is a child and whatever has happened amongst adults means nothing.

You show class and invite them. It will disturb them and after all is said and done you will be able to step away after they mess it all up.

Answer 4

Unless the reason for hating his guts is unfounded, I would not bother to invite him or them.  If your child is old enough to know what is going on, it would be a different story, but this should be a happy day for you and your baby.  As long as there is family and a loving atmosphere on your side, don't invite them.

Answer 5

I wouldn't invite them. That is a day of love, and peace, you don't want to bring them in and you are harborig those feelings. You won't be happy; the main thing is you should be happy on that day, and if invited them makes you unhappy, then hae some pictures taken or a video made so that if they want, they can watch it when they get ready.

Answer 6

I guess you should've thought about all these complications when you decided to get knocked up.  Despite how you feel about the boy's father, you both made this bed and now you both need to lie in it.  Get through the baptism as cordially as you can.  The baby deserves a father in his life even if you want nothing to do with him.

Answer 7

I think it would be the kind thing to do.

Afterall, they are your baby's family, even if you hate them.  

Sometimes you have to do deal with people you don't like, for the ones you love.

Good luck with your baby, and congratulations!

Answer 8

Its not an easy process, but DO invite the family.  After all, if they become a part of your son's life and they don't get invited, I'm sure they'll raise cane when the kid is oldler and will tell him that they weren't invited.  Just invite them, and if they show up, be the better person and be charming and polite.  I know its not easy, but for your son's sake, PLEASE do this!

Answer 9

Unless your son's father has made it very clear he wants nothing to do with your or your child ever, you should invite him.  You are under no obligation to invite the family though.  However, should he say he wants to come, you might want to say something to the effect that he should let you know if any of his family intends on coming to the ceremony.  This should be a glorious day for you and your son, don't let anyone rain on your parade.  Good Luck!!

Answer 10

it's your son - not you

HIS baptismal

HIS maternal father

HIS maternal extended family

not your choice.  i would EXPECT them there, whether or not I care for them.  it'd be really sad and ugly to choose otherwise.

Answer 11

No matter how you feel about the father he has the right to be there for this, and as do his family as they will be a part of his life{ unless they have came right out and said they want nothing to do with him}

To the people who say you don't have to invite your baby's father......think about if your ex decided to do this with your child and you were not including in it.

Be the bigger person and be civil to them and enjoy the day