Should I join the Navy?

Question

My father is a retired Marine so I have lived the military life and love it! I have wanted to join the military for a long time and I'm 30 now so I'm not getting any younger! I have always talked myself out of it because I was overweight and didn't think i could handle the physical part of it. I now know I can lose the weight needed, and train my body before I even enlist. So - that problem is over. New problem, my boyfriend and I just bought a house a year ago and he said I can join the reserves, but I can't join active duty because he won't move. What the heck! Should I just join active duty anyway? I would think he should be supportive right? Or am I being selfish and should just join the reserves? Any insight?

Answer 1

Listen to me carefully, joining the NAVY would be one of the best choices you will ever make and one of the most important. So yes you should join the NAVY wheather it be reveres or active. and if you want to go active your boyfriend is just going to have to understand that this is what you want to do and he should support whatever descision you  make. so that is all up 2 you Active or reserves the choice is yours

Answer 2

You want my honest opinion?

Do it hun! Your 30 years old, the deadline for navy enlistment is around 32 or 35 years of age. You always thought about it, and now is your chance. Speaking of love, I encountered the "what about the love of my life" question, and how that would pan out. True love will wait, and grow with you. Join, active or reserve according to what fits into your life. No one on yahoo answers can tell you what to do. But I sense some genuine enthusiasm. Wish I would've went through with enlisting in the Navy the first time around. Enjoy your future career in the United States Navy! wooo hoo!

Answer 3

I don't know should you? The choice is yours to make.

Answer 4

You state that you, and your boyfriend bought a house together. but he only wants you to join the reserves, because he is unwilling to relocate.  If you join the active duty Navy, you are going to go where they want you to. If you plan on making a career of the Navy, you just as well sell that house.I would also say that the Navy is harder on married couples than the other services because of the long deployments( I am referring to peacetime ship deployments, not the many service personal from all branchs who have had to sacrifice and leave their families during this war) I joined the Naval reserve in 1984. I signed a 8 year contract. One advantage to the reserves is that if you decide you don't like it, you are not stuck full time. I enjoyed the reserves, and got to go overseas, and see many places I would have never seen otherwise.

  I have to ask you this though, why is your boyfriend expected to be completely supportive of your plans?  What about his?If you intend to Marrry him, you will have to get used to compromise. Relationships are a two way street.

Answer 5

OT ...but why are you w/ a guy that doesn't support your dreams in the first place?  

Answer 6

I wouldn't worry about the weight, they'll ship your butt into shape and if you pass out, they will keep going just like they did with my cousin...just left her lay on the ground in Camp LeJeune.  (my cousin was in the marines not the navy...but any branch of the military is scary enough for me).

Is your boyfriend and you going to be getting married?  If so, i would reconsider.  Then again, if you join active duty, what if he moves out?, will you be able to afford the house on your own?  Is the house in both of your names?  What state do you live in, there's a big factor since laws are different from state to state.  I can understand what your saying about being supportive, but if i were him, i wouldn't want you joining anything...look at what's going on around the world...you couldn't pay me enough money my friend.

And if you truly loved him, you wouldn't do it.

I hope i have shed enough insight...good luck