Should I just let him go out? ?

Question

My husband has had his best friend *Brent* for over 15 years. *Brent's* married and me and his wife are best friend's. He just got back from iraq. Their marriage is pretty much in the crapper but they are trying for a baby anyway. Last weekend they went to the strip club and now his friend *Brent* really likes one of the strippers. Is actually talking to my husband about leaving his wife. He's also wanting my husband to now go to the strip club with him. At first i was like yeah sure you can. We have two kids, we just bought a house and we've been together almost 3 years and married almost 2. Now i'm kinda starting to rethink it cause i don't want him draggin my husband down the same path to wanting a divorce? Should i just let him go or tell him i just changed my mind? And no if they go i'm not going seeing a girl rub her parts on my hubby would drive me insane!! so that's not an option!! LOL!

Answer 1

there is nothing wrong with strip clubs. learn to trust your husband.

Answer 2

NO! I'd:

Tell husband you thought it was a one time thing (going to the strip club) and that conduct is not becoming of decent husbands and fathers. Also, urge him to tell Brent that life with a stripper may not end up well - all the guys gawking at her and propositioning her and her probably cheating with another customer.

Answer 3

Just be honest with him and hopefully he will respect your wishes.  Ask him if the roles were reversed would he comfortable with u going with a girlfriend so that she could cheat?  Youre right about not wanting him to go.  He shouldn't be involved in that mess.

Answer 4

Just talk to him about your concerns. He may feel the same way, but he may have a hard time expressing himself to you and/or "Brent." He may not want to look like a wuss in front of his best friend by saying he does not want to go. You can help give him an out. He can tell "Brent" that you are not crazy about him going to a strip club and to keep the peace he is not going with him.

You must trust him whether he goes or not.

Answer 5

Talk to your husband....married men have no business going to strip clubs...if he respects you...your feelings and your marriage...he wouldn't even entertain the idea of going to a strip club with his so called loser friend....

Answer 6

just ccause your hubbys friedn is a loser doesnt mean your hubby is... if you trust him and your relationship is strong ehough, you should have nothing to wory about... my man was invited to a strip club by some of his guy friends for one of their bdays... i am secure in our relationship, i told him to go ahead and go.. i really didnt mind... but to my surprise, he stayed home with me, his own decision, because he said he has no need or desire to go watch someone else when he has all he wants at home... it was very cliche, but he stayed home and thats what mattered!!!! so, if i were you, let him go.. he should not be able to be persueded by his friends... i  mean, if his friend can talk him into divorcing, then how could another woman hitting on him not do the same? see where i'm going - long story short, trust your man!

Answer 7

I don't believe that married men should be going to strip clubs at all. You will have to tell him that you are not okay with it and he should be home with you and your kids, rather than watching naked women give lap dances. His stupid friend should be out sleazing by himself! Your husband is not single and shouldn't be out cavorting with cheating men. Put your foot down and don't be a pushover!    

Answer 8

I personally don't see anything wrong with a man going to a strip club. If he is to mess around, doesn't matter where he is, he will do it.  

Answer 9

I have been married for 5 yrs, my husband has gone to the club 2 or 3 times. I don't think him going is the issue..its who he is going with. So I guess what I am saying is I really don't think there is nothing wrong with your hubby occasionally visiting the strip club, however I would not let him go with this friend. He sounds like bad news to me.