Should I laugh, cry, punish?

Question

Walked out to get some coffee this morning and my three year old had peed right in front of my bedroom door. I slipped in it and landed on my back. Not only was I covered from head to toe in pee - I hurt my back and my left arm pretty bad.

I screamed a few choice words, took a shower, cleaned up the mess, put the child in a diaper to make a statement and have been silent the rest of the day.

I'm so MAD! I think he's sorry, but I'm still so upset (and in pain) that I just planted him in front of the tv while I sulk.

Answer 1

While your first instinct is to punish your son, you have to ask yourself, and maybe him, why he did that. I doubt if your son had the idea "I think I'll pee here and when mommy comes out, she'll slip and it'll be funny." Three yr olds just don't think that way.

My guess, is he was by your room when the urge to pee suddenly hit him, and since he's at the age of potty training, you're probably trying to potty train him, and he knew he couldn't make it to the toilet, and he didn't want to pee his pants, so what other choice does he have??? He peed right where he was standing.

My son (who is 4), waits too long when he feels the need to pee. He'll hold it forever, and then underestimate how long he has to get to the bathroom, and he's forever dropping his drawers on the playset, or in the backyard, or wherever he happens to be because he can't hold it another second.

I doubt your son was malicious in his actions. Unless he's truly the Son of Satan, he wasn't out to hurt you. It was an accident. And I think he's been punished enough. I'm sorry you're hurt, but don't get mad at him for this, or it could backfire on you. Take him out of his diaper, because in his mind he didn't do anything wrong. He's been told not to pee his pants, and he didn't. So he did what you asked, he just didn't do it the right way.

Answer 2

Comeon...that is just funny ...just explain to him once that he should have told you if he wanted to pee and let go...do not give the poor guy such a lot treatment....

my son is 2 1/2 ..and potty trained for like 3-4 months...but there is an accident once a while...i just tell him DO NOT DO THAT and TELL MAMA WHEN YOU WANT TO GO TO POTTY OK ..remind him couple of times after that too once a while and forget...

it will take some time to avoid these kind of accidents for him...

Answer 3

LOL we all sulk one way or another... next time something like that happens just expalin to him that it is not okay to pee anywhere beside the toilet because someone can get huet and I explaned to my 3 year old who insisted on peeing in his room that it causes germs and thank god there was a fly there cus I told him see there is a germ we don't want that in our house...A diaper for punishment is not a good idea because at 3 years old they get confused and he will think it is okay to pee in his pants....

Answer 4

Definitely laugh...and ice your back!

Answer 5

Laugh, its too late to punish (and Im sure he feels bad) and crying wont do much.  Laughing might make you feel better, and put either some ice or a heat pack on your back.  Ice heals and the heat relaxes the pain away.

Answer 6

Has he been potty trained for a long time? Do you really think he did this on purpose? Could he have been trying to get to you or the bathroom and had an accident.

Personally, I think you over-reacted. I understand yelling the few choice words initially, but don't you think you should be over it by now? What are you going to do when he's 5 and tells you to shut up?

Should you laugh, cry or punish? I think you should just relax a little.

Answer 7

Wow. He's 3. Accidents happen. I mean if he stood there and peed on purpose, that's one thing, in which case he should get in trouble. If it was an accident, get over it. It happens, he didn't do it on purpose and quit sulking around like a little kid.

Answer 8

hes only three, and accidents happen, if it was outside your bedroom door maybe he was coming to tell you he needed to go, and did it by accident. i wouldnt give him the silent treatment three yr olds dont understand this.

Answer 9

Did the rest,now you can laugh!!I would have been mad too!!!LOL!

I was reading some of these other peoples answers,and I have to say,either they don't have children or their full of it"Anyone with children" if they've been potty train for a good while would have been upset!!Who wants to be covered in pee!!!!!

Answer 10

if you can truly say that he is sorry and realizes that what he did was wrong, i think its time to get over it... just let it go

laugh about it with a friend over drinks or something because when you really think about it, it really is FUNNY

Answer 11

Well, I told you my infamous pee story!  

Just remember that kids will be kids and especially a 3 year old...they are still in their 'terrible 2's'.

Don't put a guilt trip on him...I'm sure he feels bad enough that mommy got hurt.  Just take care of yourself and have a talk with him later about using the potty instead of the floor.

Answer 12

I would laugh and let him know that if it was an accident mommy is not mad but he needs to try to get into the bathroom not on  the floor. Dont give him the silent treatment that is ridiculous!

Answer 13

I think you need to grow up.  Who gives a three year old the silent treatment? It is not an adult after all.  What do you want him to do kiss your behind all day? Get over it!

EDit** to Vickie Lynne- I have been covered in vomit, urine, f***s, and snot and I have never given my children the silent treatment it is called being a mother!

Answer 14

It's unlike your son did this on purpose...furthermore it is also unlikely that he even remembers doing it.

Answer 15

I would have cried! I would have done everything you had btw... don't listen to those meanies above. You didn't over-react. I'd like to see how they would handle being covered in urine!

Good luck- talk to him- I hope he doesn't do it again! : )