Should I leave a "Great Job" gift after her play or is it too soon and might freak her?

Question

Ok.. have no clue,

This kind of stuff has always been my strong suit but given I just "met"

her im not sure...

here is the story.........

ok... thought I would give the whole internet dating thing a try, no one seemed interesting except one gorgeous brunette who seemed to share many interests with me. this was last week.

I mailed her, she mailed back

I returned mail, she did the same again.

her last mail told me of a play she is acting in this weekend and invited me to come and see it, whoever we probably wouldnt actually get to meet in person as she would be in the play then striking set etc..... so...

I was thinking I would go and instead of the typical flowers people normally give after a preformance, I would leave a copy of a short film that i have directed as cinema is one of our mutual interests and I have mentioned that I have done films breifly.I thought we probably know some mutual friends and actors and apparently we do. Two of which I found out are actually in the film I was planning on leaving. I havent told her that as I just found out who we both know.

So quesiton remains, is me leaving a copy of the film on dvd with someone to get to her or handing it to her if we do meet over the line and or possibly creepy as I REALLY DONT MEAN IT THAT WAY.

It is something I hope she would enjoy and at least be interested in.

Any thoughts

opinions

or experience would be greatly appriciated.

Thank you in advance

Answer 1

I think you are moving way too fast.  I think it is nice that you are going to her play.  However, leaving a tape or flowers is just too presumptuous.

Best thing to do is go home and send her an email of how you enjoyed her play, etc.  Hopefully, the two of you can meet over coffee and THEN you could give her your tape.

Answer 2

Flowers are a nice gesture, as long as they aren't roses, as that wouldn't be appropriate since you haven't even met yet - roses say "romance" instead of "good job." Flowers after a theatrical performance are traditional, so I don't think it would stick out too much as being odd or forward-moving. The film, however, might be a bit much. Save that kind of thing for after you've been face to face a couple of times.

Best Regards,

Holly