Should I leave him alone, he tried to get me arrested and i'm pregnant?

Question

I"ve been married to him for 6 months and I am six months pregnant. Tuesday, he told me he was going to quit his job. I told him that I didn't think it was a good idea to quit and not have another one because we struggle enough and I"m not working (I'm on bed rest). He got really upset with me and told me he was going to do it no if ands or buts. So yesterday he registered for school and chose day classes. Then he said "I really have to quit now, because I"ll be at school @ that time" (but he could have chose nights). So I said "Well u could have chose nights, because i don't think u shoulkd quit your job without having another." At this point he got really pissed at me. He was speeding on the interstate an I asked why. He was mad at me for what i said. Then he got off the interstate in an residential neighborhood with a speed limt of 35 and was going 70 mph on the street running stop signs and all because he was mad at what i said. I asked him to slow down for we wrecked and I am pregnant. He sped up so I hit him (I shouldn't have) he stopped @ a friends house & we were arguing so he threw my keys on top of the roof. So I hit him again and called the cops. When the cops came, they said if they arrested anyone it would be me for hitting him. They asked him if he wonted to press charges and he said yes!?!?! the cop got really upset at him cause I am pregnant so he didn't. I was just upset because he put me & his daughters life in danger. What should i do?

Answer 1

Whoa he sounds like My brother..and he has majorrrr problems.  U should leave him alone he obviously doesn't care about u or the baby.  Ur lucky u didn't die that day..he shouldn't have neverrr played with ur life like that, u r the right one in this situation, and believe me this is only the beginning if u stay.  Its better 2 be alone then2 be with someone this aweful.

Answer 2

You should stay away from him.  He could have hurt you when driving fast so obviously he doesn't care.  Some women even get upset and that alone will cause them to loose their kid.  You shouldn't have hit him though, but in ways I also don't blame you.  Stay away from him before he really hurts you.  

Answer 3

Definitely, do not hit him and get arrested.  He's not worth it.

Not much else you can do...you can't control him, so let go.

Do what's best for you and your baby.  Start planning your future. Do something fun for yourself while you are on bedrest, like make a quilt or embroidery.

Gather your support group: your minister, family, friends, etc.

Joy to you!

Answer 4

he may have thought that it was the right thing to do to marry you because you were pregnant but maybe he would have rather not have gotten married or not have a baby on the way.

He's going back to school - school is good and hopefully when he gets out he will been better gainfully employed.  I think you and your family need to discuss what your options are and even talk to family social services to get state assistance - you should also think about going back to school.

I think all of us reading what happened can see the writing on the wall - hope you do too - its over ....

Answer 5

I read your bold question nand knew the answer to that....YES You DO NOT need to bring a baby in the world with all of that foolishness. Get a job, focus on the baby and try to work out a plan with your family. Good luck and leave him alone.  

Answer 6

I think for your safety, and even more importantly for the safety of the child, you should leave him until he comes to his senses.  This man is dangerous to you and your child and from what it sounds like, even if he loves you his selfishness and pride are choking whatever love he has left.  His selfishness is preventing him from doing what he is supposed to do, which is provide loving support for you and your child and protecting you from harm.  It sounds like to me that he signed up for day classes and quit his job to *purposefully* do you harm.  You say you both are struggling financially, and you can't work, and he no longer works?  This is not going to work out.  If you have friends or relatives or parents to stay with, I say stay with them for a while, and if you leave him, you should not give him any way where he may find out where you are.  What you have told me sounds like your husband is being demonic; I say leave him alone for sure.

May God help you and your child.  

Answer 7

Wow, couldn't you have pressed charges for him endangering your and your child's life?  Sounds like you have a real winner.  Hopefully you have some family that can help you out.  If not, there are plenty of resources you can look into to find a place to go.  Stay with a friend.  I know you can't get a job obviously because you're on bed rest, I'm sure there is someone willing to help.  I'm so sorry for your situation, you don't need that stress right now.

Answer 8

Girl are u crazy? what are u doing slapping a man, you're lucky he never punched you or worse yet punched u in the stomach, b/c he sounds like he is stressed out, and crazy, he sounds like he wants the realtionship or marriage w/you over so he can move on in his life w/out you, he sounds like a low class bum, and girl u don't need that.You need to keep your hands to yourself for the sake of your unborn child, and the fact that you want to stay out of jail, you're lucky you had a decent cop on your side, had it been another hard *** as ur husband, you would've ended up in jail, whether he deserved to be slapped or not, so my suggestion to u on this is kick his *** out and move on in your life, you do not need a man adding more stress in your life especially when you need to rest for the sake of your baby.

Answer 9

Yes leave him now till he puts you both in danger again.

Answer 10

His behavior was wrong, but so was yours.  If he had hit you...I'm pretty sure he would be in jail right now.  

Answer 11

And you got pregnant by this guy why????  Why would you have a child when you are in an unstable relationship?  Are you nuts?  This reads like a zoo, a drama, something in a television show called "Idiocracy"  (see the movie--- it really exists!!!! and it's just like this!!!!)

Sweetie, truthfully, there is nothing more beautiful than a loving, devoted couple awaiting the birth of their child together...And from this posting, neither of you come even close to qualifying.... No child ought to be in this mess.  both of you need counseling, hon, I'm soooo sorry for your children.  

You and he can do all this crazy stuff all you want, and no one would care.  But when you plop kids into this, child services gets involved.   Babies ought not to be having babies.

And there is nothing more tragic, to your life and to a child, than to be a single mom, with a shrieking kid at 3am, you alone and in tears on the bathroom floor it demanding more of you and you have no more to give.

All of this c**p that you wrote is immaterial, and immature... You're a baby, and so is he.---slapping, tossing keys, you mad at him, he's pissssed at you.... geeeez, hon, you two are three year olds!!!!!  So why are you plopping kids into this disfunctional mess??????????

You aren't prepared to be a mom, and he's not prepared to be a father.

What ARE you thinking?????

And I don't mean to be insulting, please don't think that.... Read again what you wrote.... It is truly scary to someone like me who is a child advocate.

Answer 12

It sounds like you are both really immature. He quits his job to go back to school with no way to earn a living. You get on his case repeatedly about this. He speeds around just to prove he can annoy you. You hit him repeatedly.

I would think it is time to sit down and have a heart to heart talk about making plans for how you will live while he is not employed, but I doubt either of you could handle this in an adult manner.  

Answer 13

It appears that your husband has alot of growing up to do and is a real danger to you guys. Seriously I doubt if he quit his job but it sounds more like he lost it and with all the pressure hes under, he enrolled into school to appease you. You might staying away from him for awhile til he gets his head straight and can control his emotions. But it also sounds like you will have to watch out for yourself and your baby around him and do whats best for you even if he doesnt like it, your baby is far more important than your marriage or him. If worse becomes worst, then geta protective restraining orer against him if needbe

Answer 14

LEave him before he really does hurt you.

Linda

Answer 15

You never had an argument with him before you married him?  You never saw him speed?  You never discussed money and finances and how to handle financial emergencies?

Oh....and if you're on bed rest, what were you doing in the car?  "Bed rest" doesn't mean "go visit your friends" or "run out to the grocery or the liquor store."  It means you and your baby are at risk and you don't need to be out running around.

This is harsh, but I don't have any sympathy for women who marry men who are @$$holes and jerks and then complain because the man treats them (and later on, their kids) like garbage.  The only good thing you can do now is to GET OUT.  This man isn't rational, he doesn't have a l**k of common sense, and he has no respect at all for his marriage vows or his responsibilities as a husband and father.

Most states will not allow you to file for divorce if you are pregnant; you have to wait until after the child is born.  But find yourself a lawyer now anyway, and find out what you should do in the next months to protect you and your baby financially AND PHYSICALLY.  

And for crying out loud, keep your hands to yourself and don't pick fights with him when he's driving.  Get your emotions out of the way and put your brain back in gear, because you have a really tough and crappy road ahead of you and you will never make it through if you don't learn when and how to be calm.