Should I leave him if he doesn't deal with his snoring? We don't sleep together anymore because of it ?

Question

He has promised to do something about it for 8 yrs now, but hasn't.He has been to the doctor but hasn't followed up on the sleep apnea testing. I can't stand it anymore and just want a normal life. I am starting to feel hatred toward him because of it. Please advise.

Answer 1

I totally understand this one! I wore earplugs for almost 2yrs because of the same thing. You never get sleep, always grumpy and edgy, and they sleep great. It can really wreak havoc!

It's a condition, and if you still love him - then stay. Saying that, if he doesn't deal with the problem, then you might consider sleeping in a different room with earplugs.

I feel for you, good luck!!

Answer 2

There are medical treatments for snoring, look into it.

If he refuses to help himself, try a temporary separation to make a point that you're serious.

If that fails, then consider divorcing him.

Answer 3

I understand where you are coming from - I used to have a terrible snoring problem - I tried everything - nasal strips - throat sprays - nothing worked.

Then I found a product called Slumber Guard - which is sold in pharmacies across Australia.

It uses the same principles as what the Doctors use in order to treat snoring - but for a fraction of the cost.

It worked for me.

Answer 4

divorce and hatred because of SNORING? Lord, what is this world coming to? No, don't leave him.

Answer 5

Wow. My dad snores bad, but after 32 years, my mom has learned to deal with it. She loves him too much to imagine life without him. To leave him for snoring would be silly and petty.  Maybe you should look into ear plugs? Or have him try something to make the snoring stop? Sleep apnea can be serious though, so I encourage you to make sure he gets treatment, or he could stop breathing while he sleeps.

Answer 6

It's the sleep deprivation talking.  You can't leave him because he snores.  Make him fix it.  

For Better or Worse right?

Answer 7

definitely

Answer 8

How come you can't work this out?   Geez.  Of course it is frustrating, but why would you leave your husband over such a thing?   It is not exactly abuse.  It is most likely he has no clue how upset you are.  You need to up the ante and throw a bigger fit about it to get his attention so he will deal w/ it.  

Answer 9

I know a couple that has been together for over 25 years..and he snores...and he is sooo loud....but I believe she wear ear plugs or something...I guess wheh you love each other so much...you get pass those little things..

Answer 10

This could more then just sleep apnea it could be a deviated septum or something else if he is a larger fellow this also contributes to snoring.  I know snoring can be bother some maybe try some ear plugs this may do the trick.  Remember your vows for better or for worse, in sickness and health just to name a couple.  He needs to re visit his Dr. and get some other options for now get him to try the Breathe Right nasal strips these may help and for for yourself some comfort foam ear plugs.