Should I leave my fiance for college? Help!

Question

I just needed an overall opinion...any thoughts and help would be nice...

I want to go to college to be a nurse at this school that is about an hour and a half away. I stayed last year for him and I just feel that If I dont go to this college then I will be missing something in my life. Do you think that I am being selfish? He doesnt want me to leave but i want to have a good job as well.

Answer 1

dont leave him for good!

you should be his fiance will ur still in college,

just not see him evryday.

i would try to see him as much as possible but dont forget to study

Answer 2

If its true love, it shouldnt be a big deal. I live an hour away from my fiance. It sux, but its working for us. You both have to be willling or it wont work.

Answer 3

If he can't survive you being 1 1/2 hours away for your education and future rethink being with this guy alltogether. He's immature, controllong  and selfish. Do yourself a favor...make a break

Answer 4

If you really want , move there together.  Or he can wait for you if he really loves you.  He shouldn't try to control you or make you feel bad about your decisions, that's not good in a relationship.   And if he tries to , point out that you going to college for a better job will help you two out in the long run.

Answer 5

Go to school.  If you don't you will regret it.  Also, you need to have a career to protect yourself, you can't rely on him (not that he is bad, just things happen).  What if you did get married, and 10 years from now you get divorced, or he loses his job, or he dies - with no skills what will you do?  If your fiance loves you, he can wait two years.  If he can't wait, then it's better you know now.

Answer 6

Go to college! If he wants to wait for you than that's a bonus. Don't let anybody stop you from living your dreams!

Answer 7

if the two of you love eachother then you can work through this

if he love you he will want you to persue your dreams and be willing to work with you to make it work for both of you

if not he is trying to control and restict you and then you seriously have deeper issues that you need to adress

Answer 8

Of course you go - you need to get a career!

Answer 9

Any man who would demand that you sacrafice your dreams and aspirations to be with him is controlling, manipulative, and very selfish. These are all warning signs that he will become abusive in the future.

Do yourself a favor and RUN, RUN, RUN away from this man.  

Answer 10

Let's assume you are both 20, you have just about got the taste of freedom from your parents, do either of you really want to get yourself tied up, without first getting the measure of independence?

At 20, you still have 50 or 60 years left in the bank.

Answer 11

if you truly love him stay with him. if it may not last date and keep the wedding on hold. and go to college

Answer 12

Keep on goin ... Thats a good field so find a school together.

Answer 13

Wow. Congratulations to be the first very intelligent young woman I`ve seen on yahoo!!!

I think it`s absolutely wonderful that you are thinking of your future and anyone holding you back from such an opportunity would be absolutely selfish.

A relationship can survive the tests of time and distance if it`s true in heart and soul. Follow your heart and pursue your education and career goals. Your relationship will be fine if you two are determined to work on it together.

Otherwise, be prepared to meet much better soon.

All the best!

Answer 14

Go to school. men can come and go what u put into ur self wont. if he is faithful then it was worth the wait on his behalf.

Answer 15

Its an hour and a half. Thats not far. Especially considering youll be gaining an education and employment opportunities youll have the rest of your life. The answer is clear as crystal to me.

Employment is a huge part of ones life. If you dont do this, you will probably regret it and you will feel like you missed something huge. It is huge!

(And he sounds needy, threatened by your goals, or jealous. I had a boyfriend once that didnt understand or support my education goals, and guess what hes doing now? Not much.)

Answer 16

Go to school.  You are not being selfish at all,  If he is the man for you then he should be grateful that you want to make something useful out of your life that will also provide a good income in the future so you can have a good family life

Answer 17

Yes, you should go,.  You will need to be able to support you and your family should anything happen to your husband and he can't do it or if a second income is needed.  You don't want to be working in a grocery store or McDonald''s all your life do you?  No, I didn't think so.  Go ahead and go.  If he really loves you he will wait.  If he can't wait, then there isn't the true love there that it will take to hold a marriage together.  Good luck on school and that nursing career!

Answer 18

An hour and a half isn't too bad. I think you could still make the relationship work is your wanted the boy and college.

You could also think about him coming with you? I just don't think you have to choose either or.

Answer 19

Just go and try it out for at least one semester and see how things go between you two. My boyfriend and I had that same distance from each other last fall when I left for college while he worked. It was hard and hard work, but we made it work and made it through because we didn't want to lose each other. I went home every weekend and he'd come visit me some times on his days off, we talked online or webcam every night.

If he isn't willing to make it work he probably isn't the guy for you.

Answer 20

tell him if he loves you he will beable to wait for you

and that this is something that you want that you need to do for yourself  

Answer 21

Yes, go finish your education, it will be useful for the rest of your life. You are still very young and waiting until after college to marry is no big deal. If he insists on you not earning any job qualifications, there may be control issues there.