I have been married to my wife for a little over a year and have been her partner for four. The past four years of our relationship have been good, we do fight, but so do most couples. Recently she has been acting wierd and has been distant from me. She was with this guy in high school and her early part of college. They broke up about a year before we started dating. He is a drug addict and is always in and out of jail, she broke up with him because the instability in their relationship.
About a month ago she went and visited his parents (he's in jail). She used to be really close to his parents, and says she just wanted to see how they were doing. However, she says that she wishes she could change him, and it seems that she is torn on whether she wants to do. She admits she still loves him and cares about him. However, she knows that deep down inside she can't be with him, because he is unstable and always in and out of jail. She says she has a great thing going with me ( I make good money, provide for her, am not a drug addict, have a stable job, etc.)
Am I just convenient? I don't know what to do, I know she still loves him and wants to be with him. I love her with all my heart, but I'm not going to go through life being number two in her life.
Maybe shes just confused? I remember my first lover, you get a lot of different feelings you've never felt before and its hard to forget them.
Don't know what to do, love her but don't want to leave her.
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