Should I let her have her own room

Question

I'm a single dad. My kids - Jake (16yo), Emma (14yo) and Laura (13yo). The 3 of them have been sharing aone room al their life. Recently Emma wants her own room to be able to invite friends and so on. We have a smaller room we use for stuff. If we move the stuff in the basement, we could make the room good for living in it. Then Emma could get her own room. But how do you think - is this good if we look from a parental point of view? Don't I let her do what she wants that way? Am I fair to Jake and Laura who would continue sharing a room?

Jake and Laura have no problem sharing a room but Emma wants her own room for these friends to invite and have fun. Generally the 3 kids get on pretty well with each-other, so it's not because Jake and Laura tease her or something. Is it good if I let her have another room? Is it a good discipline?

Answer 1

Your son is the one who should have his own room. It is weird to me to let a brother and sister share a room. I'm sure you have a living room for Emma to have sleepovers in. I'd give the extra room to Jake and that would allow a little more room for the girls to have.

Answer 2

It's not wrong for a girl to communicate with a boy, but at 16 I think a boy could use some privacy. The girls might also like some privacy. I don't expect them to turn incestuous, but it would be unfair to give the room to one of the girls. Then the other one is left out.

Answer 3

my kids are young so i don't know what i would do in your shoes...

but, i wanna say...it's awesome that you're a single dad(don't hear about that much) and i have soo much respect for you...i say, kudos, to you.

Answer 4

i dunno. im a younger aged girl myself and i shared a room with my brother and sister at one point in time. but being a female, i did need my space so soon my sister and i got our own room. then as i began "developing" i got my own room. You need more space.

You shouldnt have that boy and those girls all sharing a room. Not a good idea AT ALL.

please. give your daughters their own space. its well needed.

Answer 5

since you live in a small house I think your son should have his own room and the sister should share.. yes, she wants her own room but since you live in a small house she is gonna have to share with her sister.

I think it is a little odd for a brother and sister to be sharing a room while one sister has her own room to herself.

Answer 6

I think the one who needs their own room is your son. Its unhealthy and very odd for a 16 year old boy to be sharing a room with his two little sisters who are so close in age. The girls will be fine, they will get on each others nerves sometimes but that something that they will have to get over. Give the boy his own room! Just make sure that the girls are staying in the bigger of room though.

EDIT: No one is saying that you allow the children to have s*x with each other or anything like that. All we are saying is that it is uncommon and very odd for a teen boy to be in the same room as his sisters. You will always have to think of it as, what is CYFD came into your home and found out that your son was in the same room as one or both girls. I guarantee they would look at it with a different light than what you do. I am telling you this because it is always a possibility now days. You almost have to be ready for everything!

Answer 7

If jake and laura don't mind sharing a room then let emma have her own room. If they all want there own room its not fair to let emma have her own room. A thing you can do that might work if  they all want there own room is make that extra room into a hang out room that they all can share The bad thing about this might be they could fight over the room if so make a schedule.

Answer 8

I think there are two options here.  1) you let both the girls share the other room, because I would think at 14, her body is changing and soon the 13yro will start changing etc and they will need their space away from their brother.  If Laura and Emma don't want to share, and if Laura specifically doesn't care about sharing with her bro etc etc, why don't you make the other room into a 'play room'  I mean....I dont mean toys and stuff because they aren't little kids.  I mean like a neutral room, that is neither girly or boyish, that has like a stereo with cds, and magazines or whatever.  Like a common room sort of thing.  That all of them can use for their own privacy, for reading, or studying or entertaining friends.  And if they fight over it....come up with a schedule.

Answer 9

I think Jake should get the room if anyone does. Lawfully he's supposed to be in his own room anyways. But I would give him the room because he's a guy and he's at that age where he's going to need hs space from the girls; vice-versa, because the grls are also going to be going through those female changes and no guy wants to be in a room with his sister during this period. I would give Jake the room.

Answer 10

I think that you should use a rule that my parents did, its kinda unfair, but kinda fair at the same time offer it to the oldest kid first then the next oldest then the next oldest and if the guy doesn't care and the girl really wants it give it to her, i dont think that would be to lenient, maybe give it to her only if she cleans the room out first or something so its not just like your giving it to her but other than that go for it!

Answer 11

At 16, your son should not be sharing a room with either a 13 or 14 y/old sister--give him the smaller of the 2 bedrooms, then let the 2 girls share the larger of the bedrooms; this is how it should have been for some time !!

As the children grow older, they expect and deserve to have privacy from each other as their bodies start to change and they start to mature!!

As a single Dad, you have to respect this, and make sure they are protected while in your care,plus teach them how to take care of themselves to be safe while not in your care; this all starts with everyone in a household respecting each others privacy in their homes!! Talk with your children about these important subjects daily!! Your daughters and sons will not know/learn to respect their bodies if someone doesn't teach them how important it is to do so!!!

Good luck to you and your children!!