Should I let him back in Please Answer?

Question

OK so my dad has not really been the best dad ever!So him and my mom did some stuff when he was in prison and then I was born!! So he got out when I was three and moved in with me and my mom. He lived with us for about 2 months and he didn't even have a job or help pay the bills! Then he left me and my mom for this girl she was a total s*** ! So Then me and mom moved in to a new place and he told his new girlfriend he didn't care about me and he told my mom he wanted to see me so bad but she raised cane ! Well then he went to prison and I didn't see him for years and he gets out and tells me he loves me and I remember him telling her he didn't care about me or my brother and he left me and that hurts!!

Answer 1

People change. Maybe he regrets his words and wants a chance to make it up to you now. I think you should let him in, just a little, see what he's like, learn for yourself if he really is different. You'll know if he is being honest or not, his actions will show it even if his words don't.

Never hurts to try, as it's better than living a life in regret, wondering later on down the road "what if I had gave him another chance, would I have my dad now?".

****Why come on here asking for advice, if you're just going to make excuses not to listen to any of it?

Do what you want, won't be us that's going to be living with alot of What If's and What Could have beens.

Answer 2

Ever hear 2 strikes and you're out? Well, he has 2. Give him 1 more chance and if that doesn't work it is over until another time in his life and you will let him know when that is..

Answer 3

Keep this guy out of your life.

He is a manipulator, a user, and he is abusive.

He is just looking for someone to live with and mooch off of for as long as it suits him. Remember that.

Use the answering machine to screen his calls and don't ever pick up.

Answer 4

i know it hurts but frankly if you dont see him it will hurt more than ever see him and tell him exactly how you feel about him for what he did. dont hold back then after wards leave dont stop walking cause holding it in will drive you crazy.good luck! and god bless.

Answer 5

Give your dad the benefit of the doubt. Its been years and he could have changed. I would be wary though!

Answer 6

Remember everything you do is for yourself. From what you said it is obvious he is going the wrong way. But remember he is part of your's and your mam's life. Holding grudge takes your inner peace, piece by piece and is never good. try to let him back but with a lot of caution. We all say some stupid things at times for some crazy reasons so try to understand who really he is. And One thing I would like to suggest is that don't compare any man to your father.

Let me know if you wanted to talk more

Answer 7

No, you shouldn't..

Answer 8

I think you should kick him in the balls first.

Maybe you should talk to him, if he asks to, tell him you're not going to take his bullshit and if he reallys wants to get to know you maybe you should try to get to know each other on a calm level

I mean, if it were me, I'd hate the b*****d but I'd talk if he talked first