Should I listen to her and not hang out with my friend this weekend?

Question

I have this female friend we're both busy people, and don't get a chance to hang out as much. So when we do, we usually spend a day or a few days together. This weekend, she wants to go to the country, do the whole bed and breakfast thing, visit a gallery, etc. We'll share a bed, as we've done many times before, though we don't have s*x.

I don't have any feelings for her, and I am sure she doesn't have any for me. Her bf is okay with this, but the girl I am seeing now isn't. She's actually friends with my friend as well...didn't have an issue about this until her and I started seeing each other.

Is she right? Is it unhealthy to be this close to a friend? I mean nothing is going to happen...if it nothing happened the first dozen times we've slept together..why now...

Is it unhealthy to be this intimate to a girl who is just a friend? Known her for about 2 years.

Answer 1

you know, the typical guy answer is always 'listen to the one your sleeping with'.

but it's tough, a lot of people have a hard time dealing/understanding the whole best friend of opposite s*x thing. you seem like a mature adult, try discussing it with them, get an idea. you gotta understand her side too i guess.

friends are tough to come along, and she sounds like a good friend.

it's not that unhealthy. I guess 2 years isn't that long to me, they go by in a snap, i mean i still remember my high school days or my first day to junior high.  

Answer 2

I really don't think its unhealthy or wrong in any way. The girl you are seeing is just suspicious and jealous. But she should know that you are just close friends with this girl and that she is like your sister and you absolutely mean nothing of it. If she can't understand and accept it, maybe you need to make some slight changes with her, or the girl. But you know, a lot of friendships last longer than relationships, so make sure you know what your doing. Good luck and I hoped I've helped!

xoxoBecca

pEaCe <3

Answer 3

it isnt wrong to have a close relationship with another girl, however when you get a girlfriend, even if nothing is happening with your other friend, things have to change. you cant go around acting the same way, its just basic facts. sure you can be friends with her etc but sleeping in the same bed and going away to bed and breakfasts together isnt right  

Answer 4

no, shes not rite. if u absolutely positively noe that nothing is going to happen between u and ur friend then u should tell ur gf that. shes probably just worried about u cheating on her maybe? since ur close to this another gal. i think u should go ahead with this weekend plan and tell ur gf that nothings going to happen between u and ur friend coz it wouldnt be rite anyway. u hav a gf and she has a bf so it wouldnt make sense if u and ur friend started seeing each other wen u two already hav a partner. so dont worry; she realli cares about u and that is wat u should respect.  

Answer 5

i have a friend and we are in a very similar situation, but i understand that when his girlfriend says no, its what's best for the relationship.   But she also understands that we need our alone time so she'll let us **** off every once in a while just not as often as we used to.

you would probably be best served sitting down with your girlfriend and having a talk with her about how important your friend is to you and how you want your relationship with her not to change, be prepared to have your girlfriend be very upset with you at first but keep repeating to her how much you love her, and how you and your friend will wear solid steel chastity belts and leave the keys with her, also encourage both of them to seek out each other and possibly have them reassure each that that 1. your girls is not a pscyho-jealous-hosebeast and 2.  your friend is not after your s*****g, stress howmuch you love her and ask her to trust you, other than that its all on you~!

good luck~!

Answer 6

Just ask yourself, "Would I be comfortable with my girlfriend sharing a bed with some other person of the opposite s*x, even though they say that they are only friends?"  I know that I would be bothered if my girlfriend was sharing a bed with some other guy, its not necessary to take friendship so close.  But you have to decide who is more important to you - your friend or your significant other.  Since your girl is bothered by these actions, I imagine it could bring some negative energy to your relationship.

Answer 7

i think there is nothing wrong in the act. if she really want to do theings with you then it's ok. and most important thing is that her bf don't have any problem about your get together. go on boy!

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Answer 8

Don't be the person who 'calls for' trouble............she has bf........you have gf.......don't play games.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with being that close to a girl. I myself am that close with several girls, and have had no problems with it in the past.

Concerning your girlfriend: Tell her exactly what you will do, tell her what you guys have done in the past, remind her that you and your friend both have respective girlfriends/boyfriends, and promise her nothing will happen.

Hopefully that should work

GOOD LUCK!