Should I make my daughter get a new swimsuit?

Question

I bought a new one piece swimsuit for my 11 yr. old daughter that she just had to have. It fit well and looked ok up to the point when she came out of the water. At that point the crotch of the swimsuit became semi-transparent, revealing my daughters pubic hair, which also shocked me because she evidently showed she had alot more pubes than I thought she would have for her age. I quickly cloaked her in a towel and cut the whole family's good time short till the swimsuit issue can be rectified. She loves the swimsuit though and is abit mad at me.

Should I force her to wear panties or a panty-liner beneath it or get her to start trimming or shaving?

Answer 1

You might gently let your daughter know that she's becoming a young woman, and with that comes a little more care in what we wear... you can let her know that the two of you can look for a liner for her suit, or get a new one.

Answer 2

I would take the bathing suit back to the store and tell them what it did.  That it became transparent  when it gets wet.  You did not know that when you bought the swim suit.



Tell them your daughter is only 11 years old and you want a swim suit suitable for an 11 year old.

No way would I let her keep that swim suit.  Even if she wore a liner under it, the liner would show.

Let her be mad but don't let her keep that swim suit.

Good luck!  

Answer 3

This is a tough one, but yes, you should get her a new bathing suit. She will appreciate it in the long run. I remember stuffing my bra at 11 and my mother taking me aside and making me take them out. Mortified at the moment, but thankful now!

You may also want to try to get her to wear little board shorts with them. They are really cool right now, and maybe she will like them. The only problem with that is that she may mix that message with being shameful of her body.

Your best bet is to take her shopping and find a new suit. What girl wouldn't want to go shopping anyways?

Answer 4

instead of dragging her out and taking her swim suit for no reason, explain to her that she's growing up to be a young lady and as a pre teen, sometimes we need to wear sth so that not everything will be revealed.

suggest colors or types of suits that will suit her and take her shopping so that she can choose another great suit.

is shaving really a good idea? trimiming maybe... but let her know your concerns and explain to her. let her know why you're taking sth she really likes, don't be embarrass or don't make her be embarrassed of her body.  

Answer 5

well, i think trimming and shaving is cool cuz she's gonna have to sooner or later and she gets to keep the swimsuit!

Answer 6

11 years old may sound  a little young but for some reason the generations are younger lol i think you should have her trim or shave it which ever one makes her feel more comfortable.. and try to explain it to her so she dosent think that your just taking it away just to be mean.

Answer 7

Have a seamstress sew some liner into the swimsuit bottoms.

Answer 8

buy a new one.she to young for that one.and about the shaving,tell her mom to take care of that.

Answer 9

I personally like the advice you were given to have her start to trim and shave herself. Personal grooming is part of life as a young woman and it's better she starts now and gets used to it. Plus she would get to keep the swim suit she loves.