Should I marry a guy younger than me?

Question

Ive been with this guy for 3 years and he asked me to marry him. he is 5 years younger than me and when i first met him, i was afraid to be with a guy who was only at the time 20 yrs old. despite the age difference, I gave it a try and things have been great to this day. My fear is that when he gets older, in his late 20's or even 30's, he may fall out of love with me because he might realize that his first love is not what he really wants. When I was around 20 years old, i thought I knew what kind of guy I was attracted to. But with experience, I realized what type of man I really was attracted to and what type of personality really works for me. And back in my early twenties, the guy I was with, I couldn't imagine being with now. I guess I am afraid he might one day wake up and say, this woman doesn't work for me the way I once thought she did. Secondly, I fear that my age may be a factor because of the obvious reason, men naturally prefer younger women. I just don't want to regret any decisions I make.

Please give me your oppinion?

Answer 1

well if you are really "in love with him" go for it the age doesn't really matter these days my parents are 9 years apart ( my mom being older )  

Answer 2

dont assume your relationship is doomed just because of other people and their experiences they are not you. and only you will know if this is going to work.  

Answer 3

5 yrs difference is really not that much. My mom & step dad met when she was 42 & he was 26 & they just celebrated 31 yrs together by getting married.  My mom is now 75 & my dad is 57 & they are as happy as ever!

Dont let an age hangup get in the way of LOVE!  

PS- Currently im 41 & dating someone 34 so you never know.  As you get older the age thing becomes less & less important

PPS - There is a reason for the reference "cougar" there are A LOT of men who prefer older women for a number of reasons!  Go for it!

Answer 4

My husband is 7 years younger than me. Every day is an adventure. Married since 1995.

Answer 5

Well, you should have thought about this before you spent 3 years together. If he wants to marry you and you both feel its a good time, than go for it. His age is younger than you and of course there are what if's and maybe's but you will never know and that could never happen so be happy, be with whomever makes you feel happy. That is what life is about and ultimately you are the only one that knows best.

Answer 6

Age is just a number.  If you married someone five years older than you, he could wake up one day and decide he wants someone younger.  If that's in their makeup they'll do it.  However, if for the past three years you have built a solid, trustworthy relationship that you feel comfortable in I say go for it.  True love is hard to find so when you do hold onto it.  I think I'd take my chances and let myself be happy if I were you.  Good luck!

Answer 7

Not everybody thinks like you! There's a good chance he knows very well what he wants and won't change his mind ever! On the other hand I understand your doubts, but some men are simply mature enough to know even in their early twenties what/who they want for the rest of their lives. I know such a guy:)

Answer 8

go for it, he loves you. that should be enough for you. if your age is a factor its cause your making it that way. relax, enjoy have a good life together. why make more out of it than what it really is.

Answer 9

I think its fine to be with a man younger as long as you love each other, but keep in mind your both young 23 and 28 im assuming... wait another few years wait til hes liek 25/26/27 when his college age is over. I mean im sure hes an upstanding guy now, but this will clear any doubts  

Answer 10

Bull c**p, not all me prefer younger women. Horn old me do. But as for you age ain't nothing but a number, just be sure he wants to marry you for love not $$ . That seems to be a game some of the younger generation of males like to play. While you feed and dress them, they seem to not be able to find a job while your at work all day. But if its true love you have my blessing, if you have really been together for 3 years, and not on and off for 3 years if so that's a red flag.

Answer 11

Just think what you would be missing with this wonderful person if you let him slip by for something foolish. Nice to make plans , but in reality all we have is today, dear.  Do it if you love him to bits!

Answer 12

Follow your heart. You have to look way down deep inside yourself. If you have to, write down the pros and cons. Weigh out everything. Take your time in deciding. The relationship depends on the two that are in it, NOT age. Ask yourself if he's mature in general, because if he is he may know what he wants and never fall out of love with you. Also, you may want to express some of your concerns to him. Communication, the key to any relationship, is the only way you're going to find out what he's thinking and how he feels about everything. You know when someone loves you so if you feel he really loves you, you may want to stay with him. And if you truly love him unconditionally, why wouldn't you want to go for it? Your concerns are good concerns, but if he truly loves you he's not going to fall out of love with you.... ever. You have to have faith. Good luck!

Answer 13

Age is not going to be a problem, but your fickle heart might be.  

If you can be sure you'll be happy, he probably will be satisfied too.

Answer 14

It's only 5 years, hardly a huge age gap.

Answer 15

do it its ok just think hes more educated and better in bed