Should I marry since I'm afraid of commitment?

Question

Then, it would be harder for me to leave this wonderful man that loves me...

Answer 1

Don't be afraid. Marriage is a wonderful blessing. Life is very much different once you are married, but it is wonderful if you marry the right person. You will get nervous, but you will be happier in the end, if you are ready to spend the rest of your life with the person you truly love.

Answer 2

doesn't sound like you're ready.

God bless.

Answer 3

Do you love him? Or you just feel he's a wonderful man who loves you and you would like to give him and marriage a chance? If you have doubts about your own feelings, don't do it.

Answer 4

I second Sadg..Don't force yourself if now is not the time. And you may want to try some counselling to see 'why' you are so afraid of committment. Once you start realizing 'why', then you can work on that, and perhaps then you will be ready to marry your wonderful man. :-) Talk to him about your fear. That will be a huge help and keep in mind, the more you communicate with him, the better your chances are that your relationship will grow even stronger and last. And of course same goes with him.

Answer 5

no!! are you serious?!? marrying someone is a commitment, i know everyone says you should face your fears but when it comes to something as permanent as marriage, you should really love someone and KNOW it's what you WANT. if you love him and can picture yourself with him the rest of your life then marry him. if you're not ready for marriage, dont get married!!

Answer 6

You should marry because you love him & you are ready to commit. Do you??? Are you???

Answer 7

Sabotaging yourself is not the answer.

Go to councelling in order to get to the root of your fear.

Then marry out of joy and love.

Answer 8

No, that could be a big mistake. Unless you know for sure and you will know when you are and don't waste your boyfriends time either. Let him know where you stand and let him decide what he wants to do with you, because he just may really want to get married and your in no position to do so because of how you feel. Does this make sense?

Answer 9

Don't even think of getting married if you're afraid of commitment.  You can't be afraid of someone you love, so you obviously don't love him.  If you were in love, you will never wonder or worry about anything and naturally you will want to make that commitment.

If you can leave him, because you're afraid of him then save his life and let him go.  You are not in love and certainly not ready for marriage.

Answer 10

don't force yourself when the time is right you will know

Answer 11

Marriage is a lifelong commitment.  If you're not ready for it, wait.  If this man really wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he'll give you time to sort things out.  If he can't wait, let him go.  It wouldn't be fair to him or you to marry and you're not ready for a committed relationship.