Should I meet his wife?

Question

He is a muslim. I am a christian. He is married for 16 years and childless. I have my bf for morethan 8 years and engaged to be married next year. I met him 2 years ago and had a secret relationship wid him, and gave myself to him countless times. I love him more than my bf. He also told me the same thing, but stil, he loves his wife. Just recently, after a passionate lovemaking, he ask me to marry him and i just laugh at him (though im too much happy) coz i dont know if he's just joking or serious, and then from then on he no longer repeated asking me.. After how many days, he ask me to come to his home to have dinner wid him and wid his wife, and to meet his wife. I ask him wat for? he didn't gave me a good and justifiable answer. He just told me that he wanted to see me & his wife together... i want to go but i am afraid of d consequenses dat might hapen upon meeting his wife.. Do someone knows what's his intention of meeting his wife wid me? Are muslims like this? if they want to have second wife, first wife should meet first d prospect second wife? wat do u think?

Answer 1

I think you are nuts!

Answer 2

He's looking for a second wife and then you can have some threesomes together.

Answer 3

meet his wife: No, firstly that is disrespectful, secondly, it's weird.  Have you thought that you may be a potential baby maker?  Bringing a third party into a relationship to ensure the blood line continues.

marry this man:  I think you would be condeming your life to jealousy and feelings of bitterness

oh, and do your bf a favour, be honest and release him to live his life in happiness.

I am not particularly religious, but girl, why on earth are you opening yourself to being ridiculed.  Even I know that having an affair with a married man is one of the 10 commandments!  Your Muslim partner should share the same values . . . ?

Answer 4

I think that is really messed up.

Don't get married to a married man.

Don't get married to your bf because you really dont' love him. It is not fair to plug him into your little game.  

Answer 5

RUN RUN LIKE THE WIND.  You are a fool to stay wrapped up in that crazy game.  If he's married and you are dating/engaged...let that fling go because it's just infactuation.  How can you say you are Christian and committing fornication like that?  Get yourself right and stay committed to your one man and don't get caught up the lie.

Answer 6

Ummm Break up with your boyfriend. Meet his wife and he will love you both!  

Answer 7

That is so crazy...Why would you even want to be involved in something like this

Answer 8

I think I'm a little surprised that you start off identifying yourself as Christian, and then spend the rest of your details explaining your adultery.

Answer 9

What if they are a pair of married serial killers that plan to lock you in their basement and torture you until they ultimately murder you!!!! AAAHHHHH well that's a worse case scenario...but it could happen.  The whole thing sounds very untrustworthy.

Answer 10

Why in h**l are you engaged to be married if you have an affair and love him more than your fiance? That's messed up.

Answer 11

Ta-da! Christians (as in having affairs with married men while in a relationship with another) are no better than Muslims.Neither of you are worth a pinch of pig ****.  If you go, eat only from the dishes the wife eats from first. She might go all Medici (big Christians - look it up) on you.  

Answer 12

I don't know but that's some twisted sh*t here

Answer 13

one shame on you for sleeping with a married man! and yes it sounds like he wants his wife to approve of you so he can marry you also  

Answer 14

woo, that's a tough one.  you might just want to do nothing for awhile until it gets clearer.