Should I move? Where should I move to?

Question

Alright, I keep thinking for the past couple of years, I should move. I have been in London, Ontario most of my life. I have graduted College, 2 yrs ago, still no job. I have travelled to Australia, and Hawai (biggest accomplishments).

I have a crappy job in a restaurant where everyone hates me, and I have a Human Rights case against them. I have ADHD, Anxiety, and Nocturnal Anxiety/Panic Attacks.

I have no friends, except my roommate, I have been estranged from my family for 3 yrs, my Psychiatrist, who has known me my entire life, is the closest person to me.

Where should I move? I don't want somewhere freezing cold, I hate cold, I think about a small town, I keep thinking Nova Soctia or something.

How will I find a place to live? a job? meet new people?

I just want to run away, I'm 24, and just want a new life.

Where should I go?

What should I do?

Answer 1

Are you wanting to stay in Canada? Some of the maritimes have small towns and everyone knows everyone. Still a bit chilly, tho. London is like Detroit, where I am, as far as temperature. The only really temperate area in Canada is out west in BC, which would be a great place to live. Stay around Victoria and that area, it young, its hip- you'd probably like it.

If you want to come to the States, I would recommend North Carolina first, then Virginia, then Tennessee. North Carolina's east coast touches the sea, and it's still pretty reasonable to live there. Near 90 in the summer, 50's in the winter. The west side of the state is beautiful, with mountains, but you pay for that beauty. The climate is pretty temperate, too.

Virginia is like North Carolina only more crowded. The world's biggest Navy base is there- lots of employment. The place is pretty cheap to live in except for "high-tone" Ghent. And stay away from the northern parts, it's up against Washington, DC.

Tennessee and Kentucky are cheap, not very crowded, and hilly. Very green. Race horse country. If you stay away from the major cities you could do quite well.

Sorry I don't know more about Canada, but I've only been to Ontario, (Toronto, mostly), Quebec and Ottawa (hockey fan).

Take enough money for 2 weeks and to investigate places; get a feel for the towns and the people. If you move in a small town, everyone will want to meet you and make you a part of the gang. I did that in Connecticut, REALLY small town. nearest neighbor 3 miles away. Loved it. But it's cold.

Look around for "hiring" signs, talk to people, read the local paper. Jobs in small places are "word of mouth" more than anything.

There's always Florida where they're ALWAYS hiring, but up over 100 in the summer, 60-70's in the winter.

Think hard about why everyone hates you and see if you can fix that. If you express compassion and caring to everyone, chances are they will give it back. It takes practice, but you have many years, yes?

Good luck, email for more info.