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Should I move in with him eventually?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. Even though this is not a long relationship, we've fallen very much in love with each other. I feel as he could be "the one". We haven't said this to eachother, but I think he feels the same way. I spend almost every night at his apartment, since he has no roommates (I have two), and it's more calm. We don't have to worry about privacy, etc. This situation has worked out fine when he was 10 minutes away from my house, as I'd just stop at home before work to drop off my dog, and change. (I work 5 minutes from my place.) However, last week he moved to a place closer to his job, that takes me about 20 minutes with no traffic back & fourth. With traffic, it's a 30-35 minute commute to my job without stopping at home. My question is, do I work out a visiting schedule with him (he's not opposed to coming over my house, I just prefer his), or should I just move in with him (he's offered) to make it easier relationship & sanity wise. His apartment is big, new, pet friendly and in a great location. I sort of like my place in that it's so close to my job, and I can visit my dog on lunch. If I moved in, I might not be able to do my lunch time doggie visit, and be further away from my job. I also have fears that if this relationship doesn't work out I would not have enough money to move somewhere else and would have lost a good living situation. Just a note: I wouldn't move in with him for another few months...maybe not until our year mark if I did decide anything.

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  1. Sorry, I am old school. No wedding ring, no favors. AND as a dog lover myself, my dogs come first and if I have to choose my dog over my lover so be it. LOL..What's even funnier hubby knows where he stands in the "Pack"...I believe that the bible says it's a no no for s*x before marriage. Saying that, I would be very careful on moving out of a situation that is working for one that is not written in stone....


  2. so, lets seee, just wait it out til the time comes when you would movee to his house and see what your sitation is then, cuz it could be completely different. lol

  3. yes so you will know what is like to live with him before you decide to marry him.

  4. No ring no service hun, you shouldn't be spending the night with him and you shouldn't be moving in with him, if he wants it to happen he'll have to commit, by you moving in with him your telling him that there is no reason for you all to get married ever because you all are already living like husband and wife,also after a while of living together (varies by state) you will be married under "common Law" meaning he has legal rights to call you his wife and i believe that you have to go through a divorce after a while to but i am not completely sure. For you're own good and love for yourself, don't he can wait and so can you. Hope this helps and good luck. I know this isn't what you want to hear but it is what you need to hear. Also if you two haven't said "those three words" and you are feeling that, its more likely lust, and that fades away. or if you really love him and he really loves you, you guys will decide to do what is best for each other, a pure, loving relationship, not so much physical. k? Email me if you need anymore help.

  5. I moved in with a boyfriend 4 years ago when we had dated for 6 months. We were together for an additional 3 years and it didn't work out. Think about moving in with him very carefully. Breaking up with my ex and doing the whole "who gets what" and moving out is the hardest thing. I was lucky to be the one who chose to move out, but he was the one who chose to stay living in our place and he ended up miserable. Please please please think this through. I'm not saying living together is bad. It throws you into day to day life with this person and makes you see them at their best AND at their worst. And from there you can see if you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person. I don't regret moving in with him, it made me realize he wasn' the one for me, and now I'm, with someone who I love more than anything else in the world and we started out as living together before we got married (I'm 23). So....if you are serious about this guy and want to test out and see if you could have a future with him, I say go for it. BUT if you have any doubts at all, DON"T DO IT!!! It can get very messy in the end. Hope this helps!!!!! And good luck!

  6. As long as youre not on the lease and youd be able to leave if it went bad, I'd say go for it. It'd be a good learning experience. Just be careful on buying stuff like furniture and all if so if it does go wrong you dont have to worry abuot who gets it. good luck

  7. i think you should

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