Should I move out and live with my dad?

Question

My mom and I fight alot. Mostly because she assumes I'm doing so many things that I'm not doing (s*x, drinking, drugs, etc). I've tried talking to her, but all she ever does is re direct the conversation back to whatever she thinks I'm doing. Aside from that she constant insults my friends in front of me (and sometimes them), including a girl who she doesn't know has been my girlfriend for over a year. She listens in on my calls, put a tracking device in my car, and a key logger on my desktop. I have to keep the laptop im using with me at all times just to make sure my conversations with my friends are actually private. My dad offered for me to come live with him, and I want to go, but its just that everyone in my mom's life has left her (her mom disowned her at 16, dad divorced her, and she's always dumped by her boyfriends) because she's impossible to live with, but she's tried to kill herself before when I moved out to live with dad, and I don't want her to do that again

What should I do?

Answer 1

you have to move out sometime so why wait, it's a tough thing but you got to do whats right 4 you

Answer 2

wow im soo sorry. you should try and get her some help like a shrink (therepist). let her know that you love her nomatter what you decide to do. and if your mom doesnt listen to when you try to talk to her about what she assumes your doing. you write a letter then give it to her

Answer 3

  I would try one more time to talk to my mom.  And then I'd tell her that I love her, but it's like prison living with her, and that if things don't change, that I am going to live with my father.  Maybe you can talk to him and try and get her some help.  She has issues that only a doctor or therapist can deal with.  I feel for you.  Good luck  

Answer 4

Hazard sounds like your kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place.  Sound very unhappy with current living situation but are frightened that mom might try and manipulate the situation by endangering her own life.  Sorry to sound so d**n cool hearted but fact of live is that you are now 16 and are not going to be with her much longer anyway.  Soon you will be off to post secondary school, perhaps a job far from where you currently live and/or eventually marriage.  What in the world is mommy going to do when these things occur in your live.  Is she going to move with you or want to live with you after you are married.  I think not.  You are the child in this situation but are being forced to make adult decisions with the overwhelming feelings of guilt.  If possible talk with your mom and inform her of the fact that your relationship with her is going downhill and it appears that there is little trust left.  For these reasons you have decided to move in with your father.  If she does try and put the guilt trip on you tell her that at present you feel it is the best decision for all involved.  Remind her of how important a role model she has played in your live and that you love her and will be over to see her often.  In addition maybe you should speak with her family doctor and see what he thinks of her mental state at present and if he has any suggestions for you.  Best of luck.