Should I of been kicked off the Field for the rest of the season?

Question

I work a lot at night so I haven't been able to attend a lot of my son's games or practices this year. I did this weekend & got a real taste of how the couch & his son really pick on my son. I had enough of it by the second day & decide to let the couch know how I felt. I started out calm but ended up calling him a d**k. I kept my cool & walked away but the couch came up to me again at in the parking lot & said "Let me tell u something how many times have you been here?" I told him if he didn't get out of my face I was going to make him & he kicked me off the field for the rest of the season, is that right? A lot of the other parents were complaining to but didn't have the balls to say it to the couch's face. What do u think. Was it right of me to defend my child when he threatened to make him do laps on the 2 hottest days of the year when my son is on a inhaler?

Answer 1

if you are worried about your kids health maybe he shouldnt be playing. sometimes coaches feel it necessary to make kids run laps or such to get them focused and willing to work. from your description i cant really say he did anything wrong, either you over reacted or you left out very important details such as: why was he making him run and did he punish him before this? also was he making other kids run? and you did threaten him just because he was gonna make your son run, that is a little overboard. sounds like a standard coach athlete relationship, you shouldnt be interfering even though it sounds like your son is really young. (unless like i said you left out important details)

Answer 2

Your language was uncouth, as was your behavior and implication of violence.  Of course you should be kicked off for the rest of the season, the coach has good reason to be concerned since you are so volatile.

And, couch?  As in sofa?

Answer 3

Yeah, sorry, but I think anyone who's swearing or threatening anyone around the kids (coaches or parents) should be kicked off the field for the rest of the season.  That's not what kids' sports are supposed to be about.  

If your son's asthma was an issue, I'd calmly explain it, and if that didn't work take him out of the game and complain later to someone higher up or switch teams.  But if he could play the game on the two hottest days, is it really that different to run laps? I have a kid with asthma and if conditions are such that it's not safe for her to do the full range of things associated with a sport, I'd discuss that with the coach ahead of time or have her miss the day.  I wouldn't let her run around for the game but say she couldn't run around doing laps or other training activities....

Answer 4

Well you did the right thing defending your kid. He should have been picked on by the coach and his son. You were right to not have him run laps because you knew his limits. i think you did everything right and the coach just overreacted that someone was trying to tell him he was wrong.

Your a good dad.

And the punishment was too hard. You should still be able to go to the games. Get all the parents to help you by writing complaints to the guy in charge of the league. Hope you can watch him finsh the season

best regards

Answer 5

Go talk to the principle and set up a meeting between you, him and the coach.

Answer 6

I think you need to report that coah. Because a coach shouldn't act like that espically when your son on inhaler. I would report a coach like that if treating my son like that. I think you and other need to report this coach if they do nothing you might want to pull your son out of team if he getting mistreated.

Answer 7

You should defend you child but you should also act like an adult.  You should have controlled your anger and set an example.  I guess the way you behaved was what was wrong not your intent.

Answer 8

You should have called the coach and discussed it privately with him.  

What does your son do to contribute to the coach being upset with him? Where does his behavior fit in to this?

I did only now read the last part (or it sunk in) about the laps and inhaler. That would upset me too. I still think it might have been possible to calmly say -- Look if he needs to have a consequence that is one thing but it has to be a different consequence. The laps will trigger his asthma and I know neither of us wants that.

In the bigger picture -- yeah -- kids are in a lot of activities these days and parents have to work -- in part to pay for all of the activities! I read in an article recently that you are not a bad parent if you do not attend every game or it goes without saying practice! A parent`s part is to make sure the kid gets to practices and games and come to some to be supportive.

But in this age of awards handed out like candy and kids feeling entitled to everything -- it is important for a kid to learn to cheer for himself and be happy with coming home for dinner and telling you all about the game or the great shot he had at practice.

So...to avoid this getting longer...the coach had no right to make you feel guilty for missing some games (and practices? Hello! Most coaches I know don`t want parents at practices!) And you did have a right to protest calmly to the consequence of doing laps. In public I think you should stand with the coach if he feels a kid needs a consequence but you absolutely needed to step in and tell him to find an appropriate consequence for a kid with asthma.

Calling him a d**k -- sorry. Unless you want to offer to do some laps yourself I think there is not much you can do to avoid being banned the rest of the season.

Answer 9

I think this guy is just going 2 far. This is a game not the army dammit. The coach should go more easier on kids with inhalers also. I would just dump the team and find a new game to play with a different coach. Or u can report his actions to someone.