Should I or shouldn't I?? ... HELP...?

Question

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and 23 years old. I'm about to finish my last year in University and planned to go to teachers college in Australia for 6 months. My boyfriend of almost two years and I are spending the summer in Europe. I just found out I'm pregnant. I'm happy and not soo happy at the same time. We though he couldn't have kids because of a complication when he was younger. And now we're expecting. We've told our moms and they are supportive regardless of our choices (although they think we have too much going for us). He just started University and is on a good track. We love each other beyond anything and were planning to move in after the summer. He's really excited and wants the baby, but he's a dreamer, unrealistic. I see the work and responsibility and feel we can wait another 2-3 years. But I wanna do the right thing. I wanna finish school and get my career. He has to finish school to take over his dad's business. Any advice? Similar situations? I'd be an amazing mother.

Answer 1

Congradulations, kids do change things, but they are a wonderful blessing. Once you have them you can't see how to live without them!

Answer 2

Don't give up your chance to be a mom. I understand that you thought you couldn't get pregnant, but you are, and there is a reason this baby is here now. If you do something rash to protect your future, once you get to that future you are dreaming of, you may regret your choice. Life is unpredictable, and for all you know something may come up later that changes your big plans anyway. I would hate to see you regret giving up this child for a future that might not mean so much without the baby.

Answer 3

It always seems impossible when you look at everything else in the picture.  But things always work themselves out.  If you know you'll both make great parents and in your heart you both want this, then go for it!

You'd hate to sit there later in life wondering what if we kept the baby? Once its done, it can't be taken back.

Plus, if you thought you couldnt have kids, and you conceived, its a blessing.  I wouldnt tempt fate!

Either way, I wish all of you the best of luck.

Answer 4

I think that if you abort this baby, you will regret it for the rest of your lives.   On the other hand, will you be able to continue your education with a baby?  Are your mothers willing to help out until you finish school?  If you have help from your families, then anything is possible!   As for your boyfriend, maybe this will make him "wake up".

By the way, call me old fashioned, but  are you even thinking of getting married?    

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

If he wants the baby and you decide to abort or give it up for adoption, my guess would be your relationship won't last.  I know it's scary to find out about an unplanned pregnancy...but sometimes you just do what you have to do.  If you think you will be ready in 2-3 years, then find a way to be ready now.  Look into alternatives as far as your schooling goes.  I'm sure there are other routes you can take that will still get you where you want to go.  Good luck and congratulations!