Should I pay for a first date or ask for 2 checks after we have already eaten?

Question

I think it would be hilarious to ask for two checks after we eat. I dno't think she would have ordered the lobster. Thoughts?

Answer 1

If you want to impress the girl definately pay for the first date.

Answer 2

Guys should always pay for the first date. If a guy asked for 2 checks while we were on our first date. I'd excuse myself & pretend I were going to the restroom & find a way to sneak out & L-E-A-V-E.

Answer 3

She would dump you right there.

Answer 4

Ask for two checks if you just want one date.

Answer 5

a "gentleman" pays for ALL meals ALWAYS for anyone he asks to dine with him, whether it be a friend, gf, business acquaintance, parents, relatives, partner, etc.

If when you're married and have a combined checking account and your partner/wife has earned the money but is holding the checkbook or bank card, then and only then she could say "don't worry dear, I'll get the tab."

Occasionally I've seen that "friends" who go out like for lunch (while they're working together) say like "let's go to to The Steak House for lunch"...in that case everyone pays for their own meal.  They can ask for "separate checks" or for one check and then one person in the group figures out who owes what and then they pay the bill with what everyone gives them.

YOU NEVER ask for two checks.  If the woman says to the waitress "two checks please" (and she does that when she places her order) she's probably saying you're just her friend...in that case only, let her pay her own way....in that case you know you have some work to do.

If like for a birthday, you are driving the car but she wants to treat you, then she will tell the waitress that when she orders (and may indicate it's your birthday so that they will bring you an extra cupcake or cake or sing a song or something), and she will then pay the bill as a gift.  Be grateful.

A man should always carry his credit card just in case his date is high maintenance.  You would not want to disappoint her.

Answer 6

After she orders the lobster, say, "well, in that case, I'll just have a small salad"  Make her feel really gulity.  Or you could pick up your phone and make a fake call and say, "Mom, I am sorry I can't pick up your heart meds tomorrow, my date just ordered the lobster, I get paid again next week, can you just be real still till then!"  She might even cancel the lobster.

Answer 7

if you ask, you pay. end of story.

P.S. I guess you didn't like her because she will never call you again.

Answer 8

It's hilarious only if you don't want a second date.

Answer 9

You're a guy who needs to be caned and flogged. How can you even bring yourself to ask such a question? Your taking her out? For what? You can't afford it, and such a question shows the lack of class that you have. Maybe you weren't taught about these things when you were young properly. Well, to answer your question, Yes; Yes, you are to pay for the first date, and EVERY DATE; if you don't understand this, then you don't know how to treat a woman.

Answer 10

General rule is that the asker pays, unless you have made arrangements in advance.

If you asked, you pay.

Seperate checks is cool, but only if (A) you (the ASKER) have asked BEFORE the date or (B) if the ASKED party mentions it DURING the date.

What if she didn't bring any money? She will be very embarrassed.

Answer 11

dont expect to get any if you ask for 2 checks,  but if you dont ever plan on going on another date with the girl i say do it.

Answer 12

i wish u would just walk out and don't pay

Answer 13

would like to be sitting on the next table

Answer 14

if it's ur first date then definitely pay for it if you really like her ,

if she does ask for a lobster then if you have another date kindly ask her if she could pay or pick something less expensive. if she's not happy then leave her get another table and treat yourself . UNLESS you like her , want things to work and you've got the money.

Answer 15

u can pay no big deal

Answer 16

easy question...do you want another date or not??  answer according to answer....

Answer 17

depends if you want to go out with her again or not....the decision about who is paying should be made up front, not when the bill comes.  in today's day and age, you should be able to one check or two when the order is placed,talk to your date beforehand if money is an issue

Answer 18

if you asked her out, you have pay for the bill..but if you're a gentleman, you should still even if she's the one how asked you out.

Answer 19

I don't think that would be hilarious.  That is something that  should be discussed before the meal.  And if you are the one asking her out, you should definately be paying even if she does order lobster.  After all, why take her to a seafood restaurant if you can't afford it.

Answer 20

If you're really into her then you pay all of it, if not then divide the bill - you may get a stony glare and no 2nd date haha

Answer 21

it might b funny.. but i wouldn't expect another date after that.. from her or from the girlz she knows..

Answer 22

YES, pay for the date.....

Answer 23

Pay the check and claim back 40% of it {in tax rebate} in expenses?

Then you'll only have paid 60%.

Better still if she offers to go dutch, u still pay, tale her 1/2 and that way you'll only end up paying 10%.

Than you tax man !!

Answer 24

i presume your not making long term plans with this lady?

Answer 25

she wouldn't think it was hilarious...actually she might after she dumps you and sees your cheap *** crying.

Answer 26

It's a sure fire way to guarantee that there won't be a second date.

Answer 27

Just be nice and pay for all.  Kindness and generousity always work.

Answer 28

the guys always are on the demand side and so do the paying what ever the cost, so they does the ordering according to his capacity to pay

Answer 29

i believe if you are the one asking her out on the date than you should pay and no that wouldn't be funny.

Answer 30

would be funny as a joke but id be pissed if a guy did that to me for real....

Answer 31

Don't be cheap.  Women don't respect a man that can't provide.  You're sending a bad message to start with.  Women respect men and men love women.  It's nature.  No respect and you can't love her.  bad bad bad start