Should I quit orchestra?

Question

I need some advice. I'm not really into playing the violin anymore and I think I should quit. However,I have involved in it for 4 years and my parents,(especially my father),grandma,and aunt& uncle or let's just say family would be very disappointed,but I don't feel comfortable being involved in orchestra anymore. What do you think I should do

Answer 1

You should really decide by yourself. When I was around 14 I hated playing the piano, I wanted to quit orchestra. My mother told me to wait for 2 years. If also then I want to do so, I could do. I waited and in two years I changed my mind and I was very happy for that. I'm happy for that also now. My friend hated playing the violin and he was absolutely sure he doesn't want to play anymore. He didn't wait two years... He quited. And even now, 10 years later, he is sure it was good for him. He really hated that and he could do other hobbies instead of playing the instrument. So, my advice is - if you are absolutely sure you will never like it again, it doesn't give anything new, you don't feel comfortable there - quit, because your family doesn't see into your mind, only you know your feelings. If you are not that sure, wait. Wait a year or two. If also then you still feel you want to quit - do so. But you might change your mind.

Answer 2

play piano! and no don't quit if u have been playing it for that long then stick with it.

Answer 3

If you dont want to be there then dont. I really dont like it when students are in orchestra who are being forced by their parents because they usually dont plactice and dont contribute to the group.

Answer 4

You can quit and regret it later in life, or you can stick it out for the school years.

If you quit, you are opening an opportunity for someone who might actually enjoy it (if you orchestra was based on auditions and limited seating.)

... personally, I'd stick it out ... maybe changing instruments would make you happier.

Answer 5

Speaking as a parent on the other end of your dilemma (my son was a violinist in a good local youth orchestra) I would say that you have to do what is right for you - never mind what the rest of your family would say, but having said that...

most people who are involved with such activities in their younger day and quit usually regret it at some point.

You say that you are not really into playing the violin any more - why is that? Are you interested in something else? Are you expiriencing peer pressure to be more "cool" by doing something more contemporary or are you just not inspired by the musicyou are playing?

If you really feel that the violin is not for you, then quit - but make absolutely sure that this is not a temporary waning of enthusiasm.

Do you really loathe it so much that you want to throw away all the work you have done in the last four years?

Perhaps I might suggest a diversion that will enable you to get back to it more easily. Or perhaps you should try something other than orchestra for a while - maybe get together with some other players and so some smaller ensemble work.

What do you mean by "I don't feel comfortable being involved in orchestra anymore"? What is causing this discomfort?

Could you elaborate, it might help us advise you.

Answer 6

Yes, if you really hate it. No, if you don't hate it. But if i was you i won't.

Answer 7

I would say make the decision your self and do it so you are happy with it.  I always say to my kid if it makes you happy pursue it. If it doesn't then don't worry about it.  you make it your decision do what makes you happy.  Yes they might be a little disappointed but they are not involved it in and 4 years is a long time to be in something.  you know how to play the insterment. but don't put it down play for your enjoyment.  but you can drop orchestra.  Pick up something else to be involved in now.  good luck!