Should I "steal" a name??

Question

so we are 37 weeks preg on monday, and have have the name Ruth Lavonne picked out for awhile, but we have been thinking of adding a name to Ruth Lavonne .. so "Ruth-Lavonne" would be the middle name and my husband wants something Marine Corps related .. so there are two choices we like MIA & Scarlet .. we REALLY like Scarlet, esp. my husband, but here is the prob ..

my cousin got preg and had a boy name and a girl name picked out (Scarlet) was the girls name, they had a boy.. got preg again and kept Scarlet for if it was a girl .. it was said they were having a girl but when baby was born HELLO p***s hahaha so anyway heres the thing i asked her about the name, and told her why we had picked it and she didnt say anything about us not using it or anything (this was yesterday) then today she texts me and shes like "id really apperciate if you would pick another name cause i do plan on having more kids .. " and that was it ..

what do you think? its not like we picked the name cause of her, it just happen to be the same name .. i KIND OF understand where she is coming from but then again, WERE having a girl and its not like she OWNS the name .. and besides she COULD still name her daughter that IF they ever had one .. and theres another thing .. we give up the name and what if they never have a girl . . IDK i need someone to give me an idea of what to do .. i want to bulletin on myspace to and ask my friends but i know she will read it and then prob get pissed .. i prob shouldnt have even asked her haha cause then i could be like oh we didnt even realize lol but now she knows we know ya know haha

she would spell hers "Scarlette" and our would be "Scarlet" .. should we say "F" it and use the name we want no matter what? or should we try to think of something else?? its not like there cant be two Scarlets in our family . . .

Answer 1

You have the right to name your child whatever you want! I can understand why it might bother her but that does not give her the right to tell you that you cannot use the name. I would explain to her that you picked the name for your own reasons and though you understand how she feels, this is the decision you and your husband have made. If everyone didn't pick a name because some other parent wanted to use it, well we would have nothing to name our children. Do what YOU want for the reasons YOU want to do it. DOn't worry about anyone else! I think it's a lovely name with a good meaning behind it, and now you have this story to go with it too!

Answer 2

Yeah i think you should still use the name. Cause the name really does sound nice and they could also use it with a different spelling. I dont find anything wrong with it. The name is beautiful. So i think you should just "F" it and use it cause that name is gonna be sticking with your daughter for the rest of her life and obviously you  want her to have a beautiful name, dont you. Go ahead, use it!

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Answer 3

You are being selfish.  You asked if she would mind and she does and you're having a tantrum about it.  There are a million names out there for you to choose from.  She really likes this name and chose it long before you ever got pregnant.  Let her have the name.  Is it that hard?

Answer 4

forget scarlet...that would be rude,,,,and please forget that ruth name......yuck,.,,,go for Mia.

Answer 5

personally i think if that's the name you like, use it! you're right, she doesn't own it and it's not guaranteed she's going to be having a girl. i would just politely tell her that you guys want something marine corp related and you just fell in love with this name. point out you will be spelling it differently as well.  

Answer 6

Dont take a name.. And dont use that name.. She would get made fun of. And for a nickname.. Scar? Haha ouch. DONT do that to your cousin. I know a scarlett and hate her.. Names have like meanings like every Kayla I know is pretty. Every kelsey I know is funny, every connor I know and Max are good looking.. get it?

Answer 7

I'd say it depends on whether you want to be friendly with her in future. If she's a petty person, she would probably never forgive you for it.

Answer 8

You asked and honest question and you deserve an honest answer.

Pick a different name. She had it selected long before you ever even became pregnant. Its a tad bit selfish of you to consider usurping it at this point.

She hasn't been blessed (yet) with a daughter, but thats through no choice of her own making.

Honestly, my opinion is that you should back off and let her have it.

Answer 9

soo why dont you put scarlet as middle name and not tell her?? or what about charlote it sounds like scarlet, if she had the name way picked out before you, then i think its kinda like copying her, and she told everyone her baby was going to be named scarlet, she loves that name, and you just decided on a whim to get it, its not like you allways wanted your daughter to have that name. i think it would be selfish to take it, ever if she never has a daughter, but you never know, how would you like it if she wanted to name her daughter ruth?? before your daughter was born?? think about it.