Should I really have done this?

Question

Brace yourself, this is a LONG story.

So me and my best friend met in the beginning of 6th grade. We could relate so easily and we got along perfectly. I could talk to her about anything. We were devastated when I had to move 400 miles away. We continued to talk on the phone every day, and she even came to visit twice. The first time we were really excited to hang out for a week, and it was just like old times. Then the second time she came, she was...different. She started being really obsessive about everything, especially her weight. She was always a little bigger, but it suited her and she was still in great shape. Then she just complained the whole time...it was like she was a completely different person. My whole family just wanted to kill themselves because she was being so annoying. She was originally going to stay for two weeks, but I talked her into leaving early with my cousin (in a nice way, because she kept complaining about not having enough time to go school shopping when she got back).

I only talked to her a few times on the phone after that for the next few months, and then didn't talk to her at all. I started missing her a lot after that, and I found her MySpace the following summer.

I told her I lost her number and I was sorry we haven't talked in so long, and she seemed a little better than she was before. I visited a few months later and it was ALMOST like old times, but still somehow not the same.

We kind of talked after that, but not really. That year kinda just went by...

Then I moved back around May. She was even more obsessive and annoying. She complained about her weight 24/7 and all she talked about was clothes. It got really irritating. But I had no other friends here, so I tried to hold onto our friendship when we were clearly growing apart.

Then, in June, I took her to see Wicked (the musical), but she paid for her own ticket. It was absolutely amazing, and then she spent the night. That's the last time I saw her in person...I would call so we could hang out, but she would say she was busy. I doubt that she actually was. She would make plans with her other friends after we made plans.

But one day...I called her and she was with her other friends. I asked if we could go to the movies or something, and she kept saying she was doing something with her friends. I just said "oh..well it seems like you keep making plans with your other friends before me, but whatever, it doesn't matter". Being the slight airhead she is, she didn't really understand I was mad. She just said she would call me tomorrow. I said okay and hung up...of course she NEVER called. Not once this whole summer. So I never called, either, although sometimes I feel guilty. There's this voice in the back of my mind telling me to call her because she's been my best friend for so long (longer than anyone has ever stayed best friends with me).

Do you think I should just let it go?

Answer 1

i read your whole story =D. and i think you should try calling her and making plans and such. if she still says no. then it seems like shes over you. if you get over it you should to and look for more friends. your situation seems really sad and I feel sorry for you :(  try smiling a lot in school and listening to people when school starts so you could get to know them better.

people love it when you listen to them. how do you feel now that i listened to you =P

hope it all goes well!

cheers

Answer 2

Yes you should.  It takes 2 friends to be in a friendship if one is commited then its not worth it.  I would let go if i were you.  It would savor you the pain.  

Answer 3

First of all, Wicked IS amazing!

Second of all, I think that you should call her back and try to make plans, but if she is with her other friends, then you should explain to her that you would like to spend more time with her, like you did before. DEFINITELY tell her that she's important to you and you're still her best friend. I hope that she understands, but if she doesn't and she continues to hang out with her other friends, she:

A. is stupid for letting you go

and

B. obviously doesn't deserve friends as good as you. I mean, you treat her to see Wicked, you make plans, you TRY to keep in touch but it's not working because of her. She doesn't deserve a friend as good as you.

I think, if she doesn't respond well to talking to her about getting your old friendship back, it's time to let go x(. It may be hard, but I think it also may be necessary if she keeps blowing you off!

Answer 4

Yes. For her sake as well as your own.