Should I reconcile with my family?

Question

A few years back, I severed all ties with most of my family, both sisters and a niece and nephew here and there. I actually stopped talking to one sister and the other took a side, hers.

anyway, I wasn't exactly the best person then. I didn't steal or do drugs or have a drinking problem, I lied. I lied mostly because I have always felt like a second class citizen instead a part of my family. I wanted them to like me. Anyway, one sister and I had a disagreement and I accept blame for my part.

It's been several years and through a lot of personal examination, change and faith in God, I have become a different person. My family doesn't quite see it that way.

My problem is, should I accept the fact I will be the only one to accept blame and become part of my family again? I am worried about feelings of no one ever believing me and those feelings of inferiority creeping back. I would like to be as close to my family as I can and let me kids get to know them again but I don't want to feel the hurt I did before.

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Life is too short and you need to do your best to show them that you have changed and are ready to move on. Once a loved one dies there is no going back to apologize or spend more time with them. All you can do is your best and if they refuse to accept you, then they are the ones who loses. Good luck

Answer 2

give it one more try either it works or doesn't tell them how you feel and how you felt back then.  So its therapy for you my dear and then heal and go on with your life

Answer 3

You should get a hold of them for sure, they are your family.  I would have a family meeting though so you can talk about everything and get everything cleared up.  No need to keep all of that bottled up.