Should I report this daycare provider?

Question

I never used home daycare before but I wanted to try it out just for the summer. My two boys went there for one month and I took them out of there because he house was always dirty. She also aksed me if both of my children have the same father! I found that really unprofessional and uncalled for. Both of my boys have the same father but that's none of her business and that has nothing to do with child care. What should I do?

Answer 1

IF I were you.... I would WANT to call and report her but honestly if the children are not in HARM they won't give two craps... No offense but it 's the truth..

But what I would do is - where we live we get The News Journal (daily news paper) and there is an opinion section in there.... Just write up an article on this business - it will damage her reputation and no one will want to go there.....

Just a thought... she want's to damage your reputation (with the baby daddy comments) then ruin hers.... I hate that - someone asked me that one time too....

They asked me "is your boyfriend the father of both your kids".... I was shocked!  I replied "yeah - my babies daddy are the same man - my husband".

She said she just assumed since I was young - I am a 30 yr old mother who works full time as a property manager... I was pis*ed...

Answer 2

sounds to me she is trying to be more of a friend to you..than a professional "day care provider"..

i mean..if she knew u as more than just a day care provider- say, she was an old friend--then yeah, i wouldn't mind her asking me those question...b/c she is just trying to be down to earth with u..

but giving the fact that..u don't know each other well, she is just a stranger taking care of the kids- and u expect her professionalism..then that would be ackward and rude for her to ask of that..and say that she "fell asleep" thats ashame...

i wonder how much u were paying this woman?

u could be putting your kids in proper child care..who will  give the kids proper attention..and be more professional..

afterall..u ARE paying this person..

Answer 3

Before reporting her try to build a relationship. Ask her about her housekeeping and whether she thinks her home is okay for kids. Find out what her viewpoint is on the whole thing or whether she is having an off couple of days or weeks.

You can of course still pull them out if they do not meet your standards but do not be a coward and report her without first trying to understand.

ETA:   The day she said she fell asleep is the last day my children would set foot in that house.  Having that part of the puzzle changes things.

Answer 4

You should tell all your friends, family, and co workers how horrible she is. Word gets out quickly.

Answer 5

I never would have put my children in a place that asked about the parentage of my children. It's not any of her d*** business! I hope you told her as such.

As for the house being dirty was it just normal clutter that all houses experience or was it really dirty and unsanitary?If it was the later I'd probably report them, but I'm not sure if the health department or CPS(maybe both???) would be who'd you'd report it to. i'd definitely make sure other mom's I knew were aware of this place and why it's not a good idea to put their kids there.

You did the right thing taking your kids out.  The person running it sounds like they are both nosey, rude and unprofessional as well as not an influence you want around your two boys.

Answer 6

I wouldn't unless the house was so dirty that you think it's unsafe for the kids who are there. I'm talking dirty diapers laying around or broken glass on the floor kind of dirty. Asking you that question was rude and tactless but it wasn't anything you can report her for. Well you could but they wouldn't so anything- being rude isn't illegal or in violation of any daycare laws... Personally I think it sounds like she pissed you off and you want to get back at her.

EDIT: Ok, she fell alseep? Uh, yeah that's a problem worth calling about.

Answer 7

My first question:  was this a licensed home daycare?  Wre your children ever in any danger?  Was the house actually dirty or just cluttered and disorganized and not up to your usual standards?  If she is licensed by the state to offer home daycare you should call and file a complaint about the dirty house -- if the condition of the house was a danger to your sons.  If the house was cluttered and disorganized there's not much the state daycare licensing folks can do about that.

Answer 8

i would most definitely report her

Answer 9

if the home is always dirty then yes i would report them

Answer 10

You say the house was dirty?  What kind of dirty?  My home sitter's house is old, and at a glance looks dirty - but really it just needs some fixing up which they have no time to do running a daycare and all.  Your sitter's comment was uncalled for.  And it concerns me that she said she "fell asleep."  But to report her on what grounds?  It's her word against yours about the falling asleep.  Is she a licensed daycare?  If so, then you can ask for a home inspection - say that her house doesn't seem clean and ask that an inspection be made to make sure everything is in check.  If she's an unlicensed daycare, then you're out of luck, unless you have reason to call DCFS.  But I would think about that very carefully.

Answer 11

she fell asleep?!!??!!! are you even serious!?  you should know that you dont even need to come here and ask us this. she needs to be reported. there are standards that day cares have to have. this is ridiculous!

Answer 12

If it was dirty enough to become a health concern for the kids in her care I would definatly report the facility. Unfortunatly, you cannot report them for asking about the kids' father though it was rude and unnecessary.