Should I respond to his one-sentence e-mail breakup or move on?

Question

So my friend whom i've been casually romantic with sent me a one-sentence e-mail which said...

"ummmm we can't talk anymore....don't ask."

Then he deleted me from his "private" myspace page.

Should I just ignore him and move on, or send him this e-mail I wrote in response:

tim i care about u more than u will ever know. i hope u never forget that.

obviously someone told you not to talk to me anymore because the tim i know would NEVER be so cold, mean, and callous.

and i know u dont want to hurt me.

please look at this from my point of view. your e-mail caught me COMPLETELY by surprise....just a couple weeks ago you wrote in big capital letters "I MISS YOU" (twice) and then said that you wanted to "go out to eat and do one of our old numbers as soon as you get out of foster care." i was so happy!

so now can u see why im HEART BROKEN and confused? this is tearing me up inside. i have NO IDEA what i did or said to p**s u off??? im the same greg ive always been that would do anything for u.

trust me i totally understand that u might want me out of the picture because of ur new bf...but sending a cryptic one-sentence e-mail through myspace saying "don't ask" is really low especially when u dont tell me why.

what am i supposed to do ...go insane wondering what the reason is? would you want to be treated that way?

i've always treated you with unconditional love and respect.

im heartbroken and crushed, especially after all we've been through, that u removed me from your myspace and cant talk.

i really considered you a friend for life.

i dont know what else to say. i cant force you to talk to me if u don't want to.

Answer 1

In my opinion that is way to much to write back.

If I were you I would just stick to saying "tim i care about u more than u will ever know. i hope u never forget that."

Maybe its just his ex doing this out of jealousy to you just to break you guys up?

I really hope this helps...good luck!

Answer 2

As much as it might seem cathartic to send, I would advise you NOT to. This person is not a friend, if he was he would have shown you a lot more respect. Also, the email may well give him the upper hand, and a feeling of power over you. By saying "don't ask" he was trying to control the situation, he's probably expecting that you'll respond. I don't know him, but most inconsiderate people enjoy it when someone begs for an answer, and they continue to refuse, and they continue to feel in control. Print the email, read it to yourself again, then dispose of it. Trust me, sending the email will not get him back. Stand up for your own dignity and move ahead. He really is not someone you need in your life. A decent guy would not break up via email, or even via phone. He would man up and talk to you face to face. He's a loser, and you're much better off without him. Trust me. I've been there, and it's not worth giving him the idea that he controls your emotions. Go forward, be well, and one day this will all be a distant memory...I PROMISE!