Should I restrict my wife's internet access?

Question

Lately my wife has been neglecting her household chores.. cleaning , laundry etcetera. I have noticed she is logging a lot more hours goofing off on the internet during the day. Just because she works 40 hours at a $10 an hour job is no excuse, I work 70+ hours and I don't complain when it's time to shovel snow or mow grass or fix a car.

I don't really want to have to manage her in this way any more than a man might have to control his wife in the normal course of a marriage. But her neglect of both the household and my needs as a husband is getting a bit out of hand.

Any married ladies out there have some advice for a man? what works with you? How does your husband get you off your lazy duff and get you to do your wifely duties?

Should I tie her internet access to production? In other words, should I restrict her access and allow her let's say, ten minutes of internet time for each of her household duties completed successfully?

Answer 1

Why don't you pitch in and it'll get done faster.

Attempting to control a spouse is asking for a divorce.

Just take things 50-50 and things will get accomplished quicker. :)

She is your wife, not your child that you punish.  

Answer 2

you should talk it with your wife... so that she will know what shes been doing lately and to know how you felt....only the two of you can solve your problems...

Answer 3

I would wonder not the amount of time she is spending on the computer but what is she doing on the computer, ie chatting, shopping, answering question?  If it is harmless let it pass.

Answer 4

First of all, you are not her father so don't be treating her like she is some teenage girl that is neglecting her chores. Your wife wants to take breaks and have that time for her, get over it. If the house is not be tended to how about you try TALKING to her about it and communicate to her how you feel. If you just yell or think you can take things away than you will get no where. Let her know your observation and that you would like some help with the house, it isn't too much to ask because this is something you both should do. Talk with her and see what will help for the both of you!! I always do house work, I share it with my boyfriend, it works for us and we both understand when we need a break so it sounds like you two aren't on the same page. Good luck!

Answer 5

A man and woman are made to fit together like a yin yan, complementing each other and helping each other in every way necessary.

Women are not made to be controlled by a man, nor is a man made to tell a woman every dingle little detail of every single little thing she is supposed to do.

If she is neglecting her chores and she knows that they are her responsibility you need to talk to her.  Just tell her that you've noticed a negative change in the way things are being done at home, and that she seem s****. on the internet a lot lately.

Think about her...maybe she's bored, maybe she's tired of sitting around the house and doing stuff that you tell her to do.  Maybe you should worry less about controlling her and treating her like a child, and worry more about loving her and making her happy.

You guys need to have a long sit down conversation and talk about who has what responsibilites and how these responsibilities need to be dealt with.  These talks should entail both of you talking to each other on an equal level, you and your wife are one entity...the good book said "they will become one and be man and wife and cleave unto each other", it did not say it will be man and his servant slave.

Answer 6

stop acting like her father she's not a child your a grown *** man help her do some of the chores. so rather you like it or not she is allowed her fun who are you to tell her when she can be on the computer.  

Answer 7

Who the h**l do you think you are???? If you dont like it, move on without her. entertain your goddamn self. You spoiled or retarded, pick your choice of the two.

Answer 8

I see that my question worried you. Well it would worry me too.

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Answer 9

boy would i hate to be married to such a controlling man as you!

if you're concerned about her internet use, try to distract her. Say "hey honey, i'm getting ready to make dinner, do you mind loading the dishwasher first. i'd like to take you for a walk after dinner" That way, you two are sharing a chore, doing somethign together after dinner, and she's away from the internet. it's probably her escape. You're belitting her by assuming that since she ONLY works 40 hours a week and ONLY makes $10.00 an hour that she doesn't work as much or as hard as you. think again honey!! this is a partnership, not a who-contributes-more-ship ...  

Answer 10

First of all, Im not lazy ...If I want to get online I will...She works to so why dont you help her....Dont try to control her...Treat her like your wife and not a child...

Answer 11

if you look like your avatar then I understand her.

Answer 12

Um...what normal ways should a man control his wife?

If you see it as possible that you "tie her internet access to production" I'm guessing you aren't exactly into partnership are you?

I won't even say what I think she should tie you to!

Answer 13

why should she been the one to do the cleaning all the time?

maybe there's a reason why she's on the internet all the time....

and since when is it right for a man to tell a woman what to do, or vice versa?

Answer 14

I´ve trained my husband well, so, we do share our responsibilities.

I fix the car and he does the laundry.

*Internet access never becomes an issue, after he can drive off, to his pool-hole*

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Answer 15

You're mistaking her for your child and you for her father. Think again.

"Hello. My name is Jane, and I'm an Internet addict."

Answer 16

Are you f*cking kidding me?!?!?!?

Answer 17

No.  You should not do this, it will make it worse... I am married, happily for a year and a half.  I work 50 hours a week, and there is not a time when my husband does not have clean clothes, or a clean house.  Dinner is questionable, I'm also finishing up my degree, so he understands.  So, she can do it, she is just being lazy.  Talk to her.  Tell her exactly what you said.  Explain that you don't have a problem with her playing on the internet, but this should not interfere with her natural duties as your wife... If she loves and respects you, this will be  a wake  up call for her... Good luck.

Answer 18

your her husband not her parent....thats ridiculous to want to restrict her internet access...why dont you sit down to dinner or something and have a mature conversation with her about it? that would probably work out much better in the end!

Answer 19

yes you should.  All this 50-50 talk is a bunch of garbage since pretty soon a crafty wife is pulling 40-60 and so on until you are doing it all.  BTW sweet question you really hit a nerve with this one!

Answer 20

I'm sorry you're going through this but you're approaching it the wrong way.  There's no way to "control" your wife, because she's grown.  If you did that she could decide to not come home and use the computer at somebody else's house.  I'm sure you wouldn't like that.  Try speaking to her, get a list of all the chores in the house and divide them accordingly.  I didn't say evenly because you work more than she does, but definitely accordingly, because it's not only her job to do, she already has a job.  You also didn't mention if you had kids or not.  Let her know that you want to help her with the housework so that your house is acceptable to live in and presentable to bring others in.

Answer 21

None of the above! Just talk to her about it! No need in treating her like a child.

Answer 22

If you want your wife to be more productive, you could suggest that it would be helpful.

Why control her? Don't YOU have better things to do than dictate your partner?

Answer 23

Are you her father, that has held her in a basement and fathered her 5 kids? No, my bad that's the crazy guy from Australia. So I suggest you sit her down and talk. Like you have some respect for the women you chose as your partner in life.

Answer 24

That is the most sexiest thing I think I have ever seen on here. It is 50-50 when doing stuff around the house so get off your lazy *** and you do stuff around the house too. Sure I cut the grass and take out the garbage but there is more to it. Good Luck.

Answer 25

If you think you'll restrict her access you'll have problems.  You might break the line running into your house for a few days as it will take around a week to fix, that would be more realistic.  She's an adult not a child.  You should be able to talk to her about it and explain how much it's affecting your life.  And what is she doing online that long anyway?  You might start taking a look at what she's doing and maybe that will answer a lot more questions for you about her behavior.  Somethings up, a married woman doesn't suddenly start spending all her excess time online unless something on there is very interesting for her.  Think about it.  

Answer 26

Online, you can get these little electrodes that attach to the skin and with a remote control.  You then send a shock when they are doing something wrong.  I heard they are used for training some animals as well.  

I have found they are good for keeping the wives aligned.  My buddies and I are having much success with them.

Good Luck on controlling your Lazy wife!!