Should I say I'm sorry to the vegetarians

Question

I went out to eat with my Sister and her two friends I Ordered a T bone medium rare. Both of my Sister friends were vegetarians I did not know one asked me how can I eat a living creature. I told her cause it tastes good and its just a stupid animal. She got all mad and told me If aliens came down they might think were stupid animals and eat us. I said at least we will fight back If a cow jumped up and wants to fight I might not eat it. This lead to a bid argument where I told Her that if She wants to save all animals thats great. I just don't want to hear it while I'm enjoying there company on my plate.They did not talk to me the rest of the night my Sister is mad at me should I say I'm sorry.

Answer 1

No. You both stated your opinions about the situation, and even though you disagreed on it, YOU didn't act like you were horribly insulted. She needs to understand that millions of people do eat meat and it will be like that for a long time.

If you apologize, she's going to feel like she's "right," when obviously it's just a matter of personal opinion.

And in my opinion, if she was really THAT sensitive about being a vegetarian, she wouldn't eat at a restaurant that served meat. That's practically supporting it.

Answer 2

Never apologize. She attacked you first, you just stated your opinion. It's their problem if they don't like your opinion, which you are fully entitled to having.  

Answer 3

You should'nt have to say sorry. Just because they're vegetarians they shouldn't push their beliefs on you especially when you are sitting down eating. Is it right to push Jewish beliefs on a Catholic or vice versa. No. Its all the same.

Answer 4

I am a member of PETA, and I don't think you should say sorry at all.  It was rude of her to say anything to you.

Oh, by the way, the PETA that I belong to is not the one you are thinking of.  The People Eating Tasty Animals meets every week at the Longhorn Steakhouse in Piscataway, NJ.

Answer 5

I think you should apologize, not so much for your stance on eating meat but for the way you stated your case. Knowing how they felt about meat-eating, you shouldn't have said the T-bone was "from a stupid animal." Apologize for the way you came off, but she should apologize, too. I've never heard that alien argument before...

There are nicer ways of stating your case, whether you eat meat or are vegetarian. I'm a vegetarian, and I've certainly had very civil meals with people who eat meat. I think you two just need to agree to disagree before you try sharing a meal again.

Answer 6

im a vegetarian, and i choose not to eat meat. ur not a vegetarian, and u choose to eat meat. and i think if u want to eat meat, then u can. u really dont have anything to apologize for.

Answer 7

yes, but she should not have said that to you. it is your choice to eat meat. not hers. i dont think that was right of either of you to say, but i think that even if she wont say sorry, you should.

Answer 8

My guess is this isn't the first time that these people have been in such a situation.  People that attempt to force and insult others into their viewpoint tend to have such problems.

You didn't handle it all that great - but then they also didn't leave you much to work with to keep it from getting out of hand either.

Take it as a learning experience.  It is all about respect of others choices - even those that we do not agree with.

Answer 9

you shouldnt have argued with them because you both have two very different opinions and neither of your opinions are wrong. but i would just apologize to get it over with so that your sister wont mind inviting you out with them.

Answer 10

i don't think you should apologize.  they overreacted about your choice...heck, i'm surprised you didn't just leave!  and just to throw out the christian argument, it's our God given right to eat animals (Genesis 9v3).

Answer 11

yes you should... i'm a  vegetarian, but i don't care if anyone around me eats meat. I won't bring it up unless someone asks me, but for belittling her choice you should apologize, even if she did the same to you, be the bigger person

Answer 12

Yeah. You should apologize. That whole "they're just stupid animals" thing offended ME and I'm not even vegetarian. I totally understand why you upset them. It makes you sound like the type of person who wouldn't care if you saw an animal suffering, being ill treated because "it's just a stupid animal". You need to change your outlook on the plight of animals. Sure, we eat animals, but that's because they are food, not because they are stupid.

Answer 13

It sounds to me like they started it.   They had no right to attack you right in the middle of a meal.

However, if you apologize first it will defuse things.   Really, it is your sister's fault.   She should have let you know.  Also, they had no right to tell you what to eat so they were rather agressive.   Apologize anyway.  Then you will be the greater person for it.   And mean it.

Answer 14

NOO!!!! Don't say ur sorry.

lol, one of my goals in life is to kill a cow and eat it in front of a PETA demonstration.

Answer 15

i have a problem against most vegetarians...

you should ask them what about the poor kids and illegal immigrants that grow their green ****.

do they care about them? no, they care more about cows.

anyway you should say that it is still bad manners to question somebodies customs in that manner in that situation.

not so much ur fault.

Answer 16

Well no you don't owe them an explanation...they owe you one for badgering YOU.  

People have GOT to learn to be more tolerant of others differences...good grief.  We don't badger vegetarians for killing plants...they too are living things!

Oh...I forgot...they just think animals are the only living things!

Answer 17

Well I would apologize, but also tell her this;

It is your choice to do whatever you want. She really shouldn't care, it would be like you saying she's a mutant for not eating meat.

I have two friends who are vegetarians, but they don't care if you eat meat, aslong as you don't make them eat it.

Answer 18

they started it.

im vegetarian, but i dont bug the living c**p out of people who eat meat.

thats their lifestyle, and i have mine.

Answer 19

No, don't apologise that is just silly.  Your sister and her friends are being immature.  We all make our own choices and should respect others for theirs.  Good choice on the T Bone by the way!  If they can't grow up and realise that there is actually a need to eat meat then it's their problem.  Happy eating.  Hmmm, T Bones....

Answer 20

You don't owe her an aplogy, rather she owes you one. She can live her life the way she sees fit and expects no one to question it, so she should give the same respect. Man has been eating animals since the beginning of time. If we saved all the freaking animals they would take us over.

And by the way, I'm a vegetarian.  

Answer 21

I am a vegan and disagree with your philosophies and choose not to eat any living creatures. However, I would NEVER harass anyone for their choice to eat meat like she did. I explain to people why I made the choice to give up those foods and sometimes people think it's really cool and are interested, but with the ones that aren't...I just leave them be. You can't push ideas on people like that, and the desired effect is rarely what was intended when you go about it that way.

Answer 22

If your a vegetarian and you see someone eating meat, just ignore it, let people do what they want to do. You chose to be a vegetarian and you don't see people coming up to you insulting you just for eating vegetables. Let people eat what they want to eat, fighting with someone about it is pointless and wont lead anywhere, trying to get her to become a vegetarian is also pointless and also wont lead anywhere, deal with it, let people eat what they want to eat, you chose to be a vegetarian and no one stopped you, just relax.

Answer 23

They started it, they should say it.

Answer 24

You should not apologize.  You should explain to your sister that plants, in fact, are also living organizations whose lives are taken so she can enjoy her salad.  

Answer 25

Haha! That's a good point.

But I definitely think it's rude to mention something like that when someone is trying to eat their dinner. You have different morals. They should accept it, not act disgusted. I thought your argument was good enough. :]

Answer 26

I am a vegetarian and i don't think you should. Its your choice to eat meat. If she has a problem, don't eat out with her again....lol.

Answer 27

You shouldn't be expected to apologize for your beliefs! I'm a vegan, and that is my choice. You eat meat, and that is your choice. You are completely in the right and have no reason to apologize. If you feel you need to mend things with your sister, you can apologize for the situation, as in "I'm sorry that your friends were uncomfortable with me eating meat." But certainly don't apologize for doing it!  

Answer 28

No. Were you planning on giving them a hard time because of what they eat? It's not like you were blowing second-hand smoke in non-smokers faces. They should eat their meals and enjoy your company, not judge you. If they feel so much better than you then they don't deserve any apologetic response.

Answer 29

probably, but i mean  hey, humans aren't natural vegetarians, it's in your nature lolol; and it's her lifestyle choice not yours. it's not her place to be bugging you about eating a steak.

Answer 30

I dont think you should.  They chose to live their lifestyle, nobody made them.  You choose to be an omnivore.  

Besides, the steak was dead when you ate it, it wasnt a living creature anymore, right? ;)

Answer 31

Appologize to your sister, but her friend was the one who started the argument by being rude.

If it ever happens again, just remind her that the lettuce she had in her salad the other day was still alive when she ate it (respiration and cellular metabolism continue until it dies (turns to slime (cells lyse))).