Should I say Yes or No? I don't Want to Hurt Her Feelings! Please Assist! 10 Points!?

Question

This girl I know (I'll call her K for this question), just texted me, and I've known her for 4-5 years and she isn't one to make something up like that. Out of nowhere, she said that she's liked me since she "laid eyes on me" and asked if I'd be her boyfriend. And I was quite shocked at that point, so I said that I'd think about it. I met her from my mom's church group. She seems like a nice person, and I don't feel that way about her BUT she said the following:

She was lonely,

She needed a hug (wait, it gets worse)

when I asked her what we'd do

She said "oh, you know, the usual, talk like we usually do"

which really confused me, I know nothing about boyfriend/girlfriend relationships save the goody goody two shoes bit (which is go for a walk or something like that, eat out, maybe a little kissing, that's all I know! sad isn't it?).

When I asked K "what would our parents think" she replied "Oh, I don't know, I don't tell my parents, and I already had 3 boyfriends lol"

So is what boyfriends/girlfriends do just talk these days? Or is she just asking me to say yes just for the sake of her being able to say she has a boyfriend? Or is it something else?

Another thing is, mom's been busy these last couple years, so she hasn't been able to go to the church, and since she couldn't go, I couldn't go (we're 2 totally different religions, yet she brings me along anyway). Therefore, I haven't seen K in about a year or two. Help, please?

Answer 1

well the first thing you should do is ask her what happened to her other boyfriends and if it's a bad answer just tell her i like it better when where best friends

Answer 2

Jonathan, this story is just a little kooky.  I wouldn't commit to anything at this point, especially to someone you have seen in quite a while.

Some girls just can't stand to be "without a boyfriend" - maybe your friend is one of those.  That's another reason to stay away from any kind of commitment.

Listen to your inner voice.

Answer 3

Well, she's definitely not just asking you to be her boyfriend just so she can say that she has a boyfriend. I think she really likes you. If you don't like her that way, then you shouldn't feel pressured to say yes. Believe me, I've done that before and it usually doesn't end well. If you want to try it out then go ahead, there's nothing wrong with that. It should be your choice whether to say yes or no. Do what your heart tells you. Boyfriends and girlfriends these days do different things depending on age. By what I'm getting from your question, you two would probably just go to some movies, kiss a bit, hold hands, take long walks maybe, just stuff like that.

It wouldn't be a problem to go out with her IF you could see her pretty often. If you would only be able to see her like once a month, I don't think that the relationship would work. In order to go out with her, you would need to arrange stuff to hang out, or else there's no point in the relationship.

Hope everything works out and good luck!

Answer 4

dnt lie 2 her. tell her the truth. b lyk look ((K)) i think ur a very nice person and i think ur pretty but maybe we should jst stay friends nd no more then that. nd ask her 2 hangout sme tym