Should I say something to a house guest that flirted with my husband when she stayed here?

Question

She was the single sister of some friends that came to stay. She is very attractive and bold. She flirted and took his arm for support when we were walking downhill somewhere, asked him if she could get him some coffee but didn't ask me or others present. My husband didn't exactly flirt back but he didn't give her any signals to stop either. I am the one that prepared my home and a lovely room for her. I feel angry that I opened my home to her and she repaid my kindness by making a pass at my husband.

Answer 1

that is unexceptible.

approach him in a concerning way and

talk to him about it be very passive

and tell him how it makes you feel.

if he ultimately decides to do nothing

take action, go to her.

Answer 2

I don't think you should say anything.

1 - This could be her way of doing things, some women flirt without noticing that they are doing so.

2 - Your husband was being nice not to say anything to her "the right thing to do" and he was being a gentleman for both of you.  You should trust your husband

3 - Even though I wouldn't say anything to her, but I know what you mean, it really hurts to be in this kind of situation "been there".

If it makes you feel better talk to your husband about it, and see what he thinks.

Don't worry

Answer 3

Her flirting would have no sting at all for you  if your husband had rejected it and acting in a way that made you felt secure and respected.

He's perhaps your first port of call...

Answer 4

ask her " did you love the way I decorted your room?"

and try to keep her away while you and your husband cuddle on the couch watching tv.  Kiss him infront of her to make her realize he's taken...or tell your husband "wow she's a flirt, ill give her a 6" and laugh it off...

I hate whores like that....

guy at the bottom of me..it's not being insecure its called really LOVING them and afraid to lose them by some w***e who she gave the oppertunity to sleep in their home to begin with.

Answer 5

well if i were you i would tell her in a nice way i don't appreciate you flirting with my husband....but also he should have denied and told you that she was coming on to him

Answer 6

yes ! and your husband should too !

Answer 7

I understand your anger but if you make a fuss now you will look bad as unfair as it seems. What you can do and need to do is to let your friends know in future she is not welcome in your house because she cannot control her behavior. But don't confront the woman, it's your friends you need to talk to, she is their uninvited unwanted guest. I think it's a nerve for them to have brought her in the first place and of course, she can never be allowed to come over ever again.

Answer 8

If she's still staying at your house you should definitely say something about it!!! Or better yet drive her to Motel 6 or somewhere. You must be a very kind person to let her stay with you after that.

But then again if you trust your husband then you shouldn't worry. You should be proud to know that you have a husband who other women think are attractive enough to flirt with.

I hope you handle your problem wisely.

Answer 9

get over it she probably just likes to flirt she didn't really do anything that was over the line you are being a bit to sensitive.  if you are going to be that way don't open your house up to anyone you are to insecure.

to POCKET of SUNSHINE  i don't see what she did wrong offer to get him a cup of coffee?  how is that disrespecting maybe everyone else had a drink.

Answer 10

I wouldn't be mad at her..I would be mad at the old man. I would simply not say anything to her but would make a point to my old man that his behavior won't be tolerated again in the future and I wouldn't open your home to her in the future.