Should I send this email to my mom?

Question

My mom got really mad at me because of something I didn't do and I wrote her this really long e-mail about my side of it. But after I wrote it I wasn't sure if I should send it to her or not. If I send it and she's still mad it'll probably just make her even more mad and she'll yell at me again. But if she's not mad I'm afraid it'll hurt her feelings or make her worry about me and how she's acting more than she already is. But I know that if she wasn't mad she would want to know how I was feeling about this. But now I'm just really confused and I don't know what to do. What do you think I should do send the email now or wait until she's not mad anymore and send it or not send it at all?

Answer 1

I think you should look over your e-mail, and make sure it's really respectful of your mom, and then start it off by saying you're sorry her feelings are hurt. You don't have to apologize, but make sure she knows you care about her feelings. Then, make sure your e-mail doesn't accuse her of anything. But I would only send this e-mail to her if it's about a matter that could indefinitely damage your relationship with her. Otherwise,  take the blame, and the truth will most likely come out later

Answer 2

send her the email, and act really sad, and at the end say something like, i can't believe you don't trust me... and swear that u didnt...

Answer 3

try to talk to her your best in person because this may be better because she knows how you really feel say sorry and if you want to punish me punish me but im very sorry fo my actions so dont send the email just say that

Answer 4

I don't think I would send it. It would be best to tell her in person. e-mails can be taken the wrong way. You're mom could read it as if you were mad, that wouldn't be good.

Answer 5

my  Mom And Me Get Into Fights All The Time Send It To Her But Make Sure You Tell Her everything!

Answer 6

I hate fighting with my mom. It sucks doesn't it. I would suggest allowing some time to cool down. Take a few days. Then call her. Ask her " hey, just wanting to chat, are you still mad?" And go from there. If she says yes, then tell her to call you when she cools down and wants to hear your side. She will cool down, and she will call. If she says she's not mad, say: hey, I know things got heated the other day, and I wanted you to hear me out..then tell your side. Say you know mom, I love you, but sometimes I really wish you would just listen. Just listen to me. And let me explain. I want to have a open honest realationship with you but it's hard to have one when you never let me speak. - AND YOUR MOM IS GONNA BE LIKE " WOW-MY DAUGHTER IS REALLY MATURE, AND IS WANTING TO BE HEARD."

Answer 7

     Does your mum live a long way from you?  Is that why you have to send her E-mails?  It sounds as though you live with her.  If so, try talking.  E-mailing someone or writing to them under these circumstances is so impersonal.  Just talk to her.  Tell her how sorry you are for the awful misunderstanding, that the last thing you wanted was to upset her, and simply kiss and make up.

Good luck

Mike B

Answer 8

If you are wondering, you probably shouldn't send it. Letters are not a good way to get through things especially if you live with the person or there is a chance to discuss in person. Even if she lived overseas, a phone call in person would still be better than a letter. Better to sit down with her and discuss your feelings. Tell her you felt upset because you feel that you have a side to the story that she needed to understand.  She's the Mom and when you are in her house, you live by her rules. It's ok to have your own opinion, of course, and like you said you think she would be open to hearing how you are feeling.