Should I share the good news?

Question

My husbands brother is getting married soon and we just found out we are pregnant! We recently experienced a miscarriage and want to be careful about the timing of telling this time. However, we want to tell our family's. At the time of their wedding, we will be 14 weeks pregnant. Should we hold our news until it is over? Or go ahead and tell our family's now? There is already issues between me and the new sister-in-law. She is very jealous of all that we do. But after what we have gone through, I do not think we should have to keep our good news a secret. After all, we were pregnant and miscarried before they were ever engaged. Please advise!

Answer 1

It makes me sick when people say "we" are pregnant. Only you can be pregnant and not your husband. There is no "we" unless you are talking about you and another pregnant woman.

Answer 2

Although I know that you are over the moon with excitement, and rightfully so, I think you should wait until after the wedding to tell the good news.  If your future sister-in-law is already jealous, then taking away from her special time is only going to worsen that.  Everyone deserves their chance to be in the spotlight.  Let her enjoy it now, and then once they are married, it will be all about you and the new baby you are expecting!  Plus, try and reverse roles.  How would you feel if you were about to get married, and someone else came in with huge news?  Chances are, you would be a little disappointed.  And unless your families are close, there's no reason why you can't tell your side of the family now.  Congrats, and I wish you a healthy pregnancy!

Answer 3

I think you should wait until after.  There is no need to tell everyone before, if you do it will take away from her day because everybody will be talking about you and your baby.  Let her have her day.

Answer 4

Usually they say to wait until after the 1st trimester, but the decision is always up to you and your husband. In your situation, I would tell them before the wedding. You'll be over the 1st trimester and if they are anything like my family weddings, everyone will be drinking and wondering why you aren't drinking. Then everyone will start to ask questions and the last thing you want to do is tell everyone youre pregnant ON the wedding day. I think you should tell them now.