Should I sleep with him? Can a girl be friends with benefits?

Question

I have this guy friend (well, he thinks hes my boyfriend because we are always together). We work together but Im switching jobs soon. We get along great but I don't think he is someone I would choose for a boyfriend. I am looking for a friend with benefits. I am not really attracted to him but I want someone for s*x who I know I would not fall in love with and who will be available as he alwaysis. I have been playedsoomany times where I thought me and the guy were going to be togtherand he ended up "havingproblems"or "not being ready". I know it felt bad but I learned that thats life, theres always one person that cares more. So should I sleep with this guy for fun and hang out with him, like being friends with benefits? I don't want him to be hurt because he really likes me, but if guys can do it then why don't girls do it?

Answer 1

okay well your choosing him because you kno you wont fall in love with him. but i mean think about him too. are you sure HE wouldnt end up falling in love with YOU?

and i mean, thats all good and fine n stuff, but dont lead the boy on.

just think about the effects of wat you do before you do them.

Answer 2

Well, despite your best efforts to attempt to confuse me with spelling mistakes and grammatical errors, you have succeeded in passing a message to me.

The problem with s*x is that it is a lot more chemical than most people think. Your brain is a little chemistry set of hormones that do all sorts of things, triggering hunger, emotions, everything. When you have s*x with someone, your brain releases a chemical that creates a sort of emotional attachment to the other person. It probably originated as a means to help keep the male and female together long enough for the baby to come around back in the evolutionary annals.

How well this functions operates differently in different people. Some people don't feel its effects very strongly, while others feel it very strongly. Those who it doesn't affect as much tend to be more likely to cheat on spouses, etc. Anyway, long story short, if you have s*x with him there's a good chance that he'll start getting even more attached, even on the outside chance that you tell him that you don't want a relationship and he understands and accepts that. The chances of both of these occurring simultaneously are pretty slim, so I'd say the best idea is no.

Then again, I have a feeling you already knew the answer before you came here. Maybe you were just hoping for verification or justification. Nevertheless, the point stands, and just because some people are jerks doesn't mean you should be one too.

Answer 3

You don't want him to get hurt the way that you've been hurt do you? You know how it feels, so don't make him feel that way!! Make sure you let him know that you just want to be friends with benefits. If he is not ok with this, then you need to find someone who is. Just don't hurt him. Don't pretend that you care for him as a boyfirend just for s*x. He will only end up getting hurt. So just be completely honest with him.