Should I stay home or not?

Question

Ok I am currently deployed to Iraq. I am about to go on R&R. My wife is having a really ruff time with our kids. My oldest daughter is bipolar and the doctor doesn't seem to care and doesn't listen to my wife when she tell him that the medication is not working. She is adopted and the doctor had told my wife that maybe she give her back. We have had her since she 4 days old. So that is not an option for us. My youngest daughter is being treated for TB that she got who knows from where. She is on medication for that. My wife has told numerous times that she feels depressed and just wants to give up. She tells that she can't do this anymore that she needs help. My question is when I go on R&R should stay home and not return back to Iraq? I know that if I do this my military career is pretty much over, but at this point I don't care, because my family needs to come first. If any one out there have any ideas of what I should do and how to do it, so I can stay home and take care of my family let me know please.

Answer 1

Ok do you think you could get her help?? if she lived near me i would love to help her out just because life is hard and you feel like giving up like she feels now and she needs to enjoy life with the kids it is hard but maybe with an extra hand it could help her out and make her a little more relaxed. Maybe a babysitter for a few hours or some one to work with her most of the day. Now you need to talk to your wife ask her how can i make this better how do you need me to help. Let her know that you are suppose to go to R&R but if she really needs you then you will go home with her and the kids, then give her the other option of you going on R&R and find some one who would like to help her. See what she has to say and both of use come to an agreement on it. Think about if you come home will you still have to get a job?? Will you really be able to help that much?? Will use be finachally set? Will you be stuggling?? So make sure what ever descion you make you look for the out come. Well i hope i helped. Good Luck

Answer 2

Sounds like you got it hard. well we on yahoo answers is not who you should be talking to about this. You should be talking to the people sending you to Iraq

Answer 3

I believe your first concern has to be your family, if anything will happen them I don't know if your career or any military staff can help you to replace them.

I don't know, it's you choice, but in my opinion, family comes always first. it's irreplaceable.  

Answer 4

for me, it is better for you to stay home because your family needs your support. you must show how important they are for you especially right now that they are facing such diseases. you must put all your efforts so that you will never regret for being not responsible for them. you must convince your wife that you can surpass all the challenges that come along and never give up. you can do it and good luck with your family...