Should I stay on with her after 5 years ?

Question

I am in a relationship with this girl. We have been studying and staying together in the same university for 5 years. Now that we are back in our respective hometown after graduating, we seldom get to see each other and we keep in touch by SMS and calls. In a month or so, we will have to serve the government. The problem is, should I stay on with her and request that we both apply for the same job in the same place ? Possibility of us working together is high. I am just very confused and undecided. I know for sure if we are to work together in the same place, we will probably end up getting married too. Occasionally we do quarrel & fight a lot and I think this is hurting our relationship. Should I tell her I want us to work separately ? Should I keep my options open to other girls ? Do you think I should stay loyal to her and eventually get married ? Should i take some time off from her and at the same time see if anyone comes into my life ???

Answer 1

You have already made up your mind, just do it.

Answer 2

if the fire's dead

walk away.

doesn't sound like you LOVE her!!

Answer 3

Better off listening to your heart. There are so many fish in the sea but think again is it worth losing someone that you've spend 5 yrs with and flush down the drain cuz you don't know what to do.  

Answer 4

the ENTIRE fact that you are even asking this??? You already know the answer to this.  

Answer 5

I don't hear anything about you loving her or feeling you'd miss her if you didn't have her in your life. You seem more anxious about whether you could get a replacement. For that reason I would think you should seperate. Working together, even requesting HER to change her plans to work with you, would be very unfair if in the long term if your hearts just not in it.

I guess you have to look very deep into yourself to answer this. Being loyal whilst you ARE an item is unquestionable. And 'keeping options open' really doesn't say alot for your 5yrs together.

Answer 6

Time served is no reason to continue a worn out relationship

Answer 7

Sounds like you're comparing sofas at the furniture store. No mention of missing her when you're apart and no mention of love. Move along.

Answer 8

You did not say that you miss her or that you love her....

Answer 9

Not to be mean, just enlightening, but think about it.  If you knew for sure that she was the one, would there be any questions at all?