Should I stay with my baby's father?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years. We have a 6 month old daughter and I am 4 months pregnant with our next child. My boyfriend still doesn't have a steady job!!! It's so frustrating because I worked up until my due date and he's not helping me at all financially.

I'm fed up and I don't know what to do. But I know I want to try everything to make it work because I want my children to have their father in their life since it's not something I was fortunate enough to have. He's 28 years old. How do i get him to grow up and take responsibility?

Answer 1

tell him that he needs to figure things out because he has kid(s) now. And if he really loves you that he needs to figure things out or else u are leaving. So it seems like you are secure with your money, so if you want to leave...then leave.

Answer 2

As much as I agree with the person above me, it's not that simple.  But if you're not happy in this environment, and he cannot fully support both of his children, then do you really want him in your life?  My suggestion is to surround yourself with the people who are willing to help you out as much as possible.  Like family, and close friends... ones who are productive in life.  And as for not having their father around, there are ways to work that out.  If he truly wants to be apart of his childrens lives, then having part of the custody of his children might kick him into gear, and make he get a job.  I hope that helped!

Answer 3

G'Day  he should of grown up with the first child,i recon you should leave him but if he give you support then stick with it, Im sure 2 kid's will make him wanna get out of the house and get a job.But is it going to get better 4 you if you left him, or are you going to be worse off.it's up to you what you you want to do, but if you feel you can move on and make a better life with somebody else then leave i would,y be with somebody who want's to breed kid's and not look after them or you while in this state. f*****k that id pack my bags and tell him to kiss my  a.s.s as i walk out the door,HE MAYBE A GOOD DAD,BUT FINANCIALLY  HE SUCKS AT IT.Cheers darling

Answer 4

why did you get pregnant with him again if hes been acting this way all along. i just dont get it. youre getting yourself into deep trouble. the more kids you have the harder its going to get to put food on the table.

Answer 5

sounds like a freeloader to me  or mama boy  tell him get a job or leave

Answer 6

think bout wether you want to be with him.

+ also think bout what he's gonna be like when the 2nd child comes along.

he should have a job + take care of his responsibilities.

you are a pregnant women, you shouldnt be workin.

you should have your feet up + be relaxing.

you shouldn't put up with his behaviour.

tell him straight what you think of his behaviour.

say to hiim, sort your self out of leave.

tell him to get himself a job + act like the responsible adult that he should be.

he has (a) child(ren) to be looking after.

if he gonna act like this.

Leave Him!

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Answer 7

Sit him down & talk to him, tell him how scared & frustrated you are.

Good Luck. X :-)