Should I still be friends with my friend who I just found out smokes pot?

Question

I've been friends with this person for about 4 years, even had a big "Crush" on her but eventually got over that. I recently found out she smokes pot with her new boyfriend.

My opinion on that is if you smoke pot it shows what kind of person you are. It shows that you are a weak person and cannot act upon yourself but depend on others to act upon you. I do not like people who smoke pot or do any other drugs, illegal acts.

I don't mind if they drink to an extent but yeah. Should I still be friends with her? Or should I talk to her about it?

And the funny thing is when she wasn't going out with this guy she complained that he was an idiot for smoking pot. Seems hypocritical to me...what do you think?

Answer 1

No way can you be her friend anymore. Can I?

Answer 2

i think u should talk to her and if that doesnt work out, stop being her friend. But still try to get her to stop maybe. Why did u put crush in parenthesis?

Answer 3

I think you should definitely talk to her about it.  Let her know how you feel about it, and like someone else said - set a good example and be a good influence on her.  If she tries to talk you into doing it, or brushes you off, then just back off and she may come around.  You don't want to turn your back on her b/c she needs a good friend like you as an example.  Be there for her when she realizes she is doing something stupid.

Answer 4

Stay away from potheads. They will only lead you astray. Your mama would be proud.  Good for questioning this.

Answer 5

You seem to be saying that anyone who makes a choice different from your own is somehow weak. Sorry, but that's self-serving tripe.

I think that what happened to your friend should be a warning to you. Remember how she was complaining that he was an idiot for smoking pot, and then smoking it? That's what happens when you're so convinced of your own perfection that you don't stop to think that maybe you don't know everything in the world. You discover among other things that what you learned in little boy/girl health class isn't quite the truth.

No, what she did isn't hypocrisy, it was growing up -- the realization that your unthinking adoption of the opinions of authority was a mistake.

Note that I'm not advocating marijuana use -- like any drug, including alcohol, it has negative effects. What I am saying is that your opnion of it and those who use it is naive in the extreme. Better you be a little more mature and aware, because then you'll be better prepared to consider the real downsides when you're tempted to use it later on.

As to whether you continue to hang out with her, well, it would be stupid not to on the basis of some half-baked theory about oh horrors her way of life. But if you choose not to, I'm far from sure that she'll be getting the bad end of the deal.

Answer 6

I think you should chill....

Answer 7

I'm sorry that your friend disappointed you.

I think you should try to be a good influence on her, and if she doesn't come around, don't be friends with her