Should I take her seriously or dump her?

Question

My wife left me a couple of months ago. Since then she has said that she wants to maybe work things out, then a week later change her mind and says she doesn't want to work on it. Then after filing for divorce, she says again she wants to maybe work on getting back together. She called me up last week pretty much begging to take her back, then she calls me this next Sunday saying again that she is not sure if she wants to work on this situation. She has changed her mind on this 6 times in my count.

Should I just divorce her since she doesn't know what to do, or wait until she finally makes a decision (if she ever does)? This is aggervating on my end since Im willing to try to work on things, but is not going very well with her mind changing every week.

Answer 1

sounds like she wants to see if she still "has" u. u might be her backup plan...dont put urself through this..get a divorce and move on

Answer 2

Sounds like she is using you as a back up, and trying to see if you do have feelings for her so she knows she still has you somewhat around just in case.. she is probably with someone else when she says she doesn't want to work it out but then has no one when she says she wants to work it out.. that's what is looks like to me.. you should just move on..  

Answer 3

Hi,

It's nice that you are willing to try to work on things, marriage is a serious matter and no decisions should be made hastily. I can definitely understand your frustration over the delay in making up her mind. I suggest you to be patient, give her enough opportunity to make up her mind. Be understanding and supportive. Giving an ultimatum may not work in relationships but given the circumstances explain to her that it is causing you a lot of anguish and ask her to discuss the problems if she has any. Then decide on the best course of action.

Hoping that you will resolve your problems amicably.