Should I take him back or not?

Question

My ex boyfriend cheated on me about 4 months ago. I told him right after he cheated that I hated him, and to never speak to me again. It wasn't true, I could hate him because he was once the love of my life, and every time I got an e-mail from him, I got happy. I cried over him many times, but now we are talking again, and I find myself falling for him again. I know its wrong and stupid, but love is crazy, love is hurt, forgive is always a piece, and peace to yourself, but on the other hand I lost all trust for him, and I'm mad for what he turned me into, and my biggest problem will he do it again? What do you think?

Answer 1

Yes girlfriend, he will do it again.

I understand how you feel, I have been in your shoes. I had high hopes that the individual would change and we would live happily ever after...Boy was I wrong.

Here's the thing, if you take him back, prepare yourself for dissappointment in the future.

sometimes the truth hurts.

Answer 2

It's natural to have feelings for an ex - but that doesn't mean you should be with them, or that the relationship would be successful.  

Look at it this way. You are in love with the boyfriend who was good and kind to you.  You hated the boyfriend who cheated on you.  But neither of these are the whole person.  If you get back in a relationship with him, it will be with the whole person, with both the boyfriend you loved and the boyfriend who cheated on you.  Is that something you can accept?

If you don't trust him, then the relationship won't last long.  Love may be strong, but it can't replace trust or respect, and no relationship can be successful without trust.  He might cheat, he might not; he might be a liar, he might be sincerely repentenant - there's no way for you to ever *know* for sure, so you just have to ask yourself if you're willing to take that chance.

Personally, I recommend moving on.  He was the love of your life - so far.  Your life ain't over, honey, and you will be amazed at how much love you have yet to find.  You can and will love again, so don't cling to the past when you have a wonderful future ahead of you.

Answer 3

alot of people have made it thru cheating but it takes ALOT of work--you would need to be prepared for that--because you can forgive all you want--but you will NEVER forget--it's always in your head.. plus, it all depends if his cheating was a one night stand thing or an on going thing.. this is all on you--you need to make sure your guard is up for awhile & don't rush into anything...there's nothing wrong with taking your time & talking to him for awhile...

Best of Luck~

Answer 4

GUARANTEED HE WILL DO IT AGAIN!!

Answer 5

If he did it once, he might do it again. You can go out w/ him, but warn him and keep him interested.

Answer 6

once a cheater, always a cheater

Answer 7

Krista! Move On. Don't Let Him Get You Again.

Plenty Of Loyal Men Out There.

Good Luck!